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As a tall, confident women (my friends describe me as beautiful & intimidating), how can I get approached by more men? At the gym or in public places/bars/clubs? Advice?
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Anonymous 12w

You can’t control others, only yourself. Since ur confident you should have no issues approaching people you find attractive

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Anonymous 12w

There’s really not much you can do to influence what others do, the best possible thing to do is to approach the men you want to date

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Anonymous 12w

Make eye contact with a guy you find attractive multiple times in a short time and make your hints/ flirting obvious. Guys can be very oblivious and over think or brush off signs as being nice.

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Anonymous 12w

Here’s what you do. 1. Find a guy that you think is cool and is single 2. Ask him what he is doing on (insert day here). And dont pre rehearse it, just all casual and vibes. If you rehearse it, it will put unnecessary weight on your shoulders

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12w

Although I feel confident in myself, I don’t prefer to take “the lead” in dating. I honestly don’t have an issue approaching men for the most part, but I don’t like to set the precedent that I’m more “dominant” in that situation, if u know what I mean?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12w

If you were to give advice on approaching those i find attractive, what is a good/nice way to do that without coming on too strong or aggressive - could I make a subtle move in some sort of way?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12w

Talk to someone, Complement them, Wave at them, perhaps touch their shoulder

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12w

But also no one takes the “lead” in a relationship, so I would completely just not agree with that point lol.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12w

You don’t have to “take the lead” but you gotta give the guys a trail to follow. People think taking the lead is doing everything but it’s just being the first person to be bold enough to say something that lacks plausible deniability.

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