Anonymous #1 1d

i guess, again i don't think it's a good thing but it's like to me not morally worse than SA

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Anonymous OP 1d

There are varying degrees to everything.

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Anonymous #1 1d

i just feel like cheating can be forgiven while SA cannot especially bc like you can SA a child, like that is just inhumane

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Anonymous OP 1d

Ok. 1) Cheating should Not be forgiven. Either party would be a fool. 2) SA'ing a child is unforgivable. Again there are varying degrees to both of these acts. Why can't u see both sides here?

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Anonymous #1 1d

bc my dad cheated on my mom and i had to find within myself to forgive him, he struggled with his sexuality his whole life and while that isn't a justification for his actions i can understand and empathize with him. and he is paying the consequences now bc he ruined his marriage. however he has trauma from being molested as a child so that is kinda what lead him to be confused to begin with. i feel like both are very niche but one just isn't forgivable

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Anonymous OP 1d

niche situations*^

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Anonymous mrunknown 1d

Its also up there with lie/manipulate and that’s kinda vague and could involve some really messed up stuff.

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Anonymous pirosnake 1d

Yeah manipulate could’ve gone with rape and SA but I think most of them jus saw cheating

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Anonymous #4 1d

Murder definitely isn’t the worst

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Anonymous #1 1d

I can understand why I was able to forgive my father but my experience has caused me to be forgiven with people who have cheated in the past. I refuse to believe "once a cheater, always a cheater" bc it truly does depend. yeah you're right the whole family dynamic was impacted but that wasn't just bc my father cheated. my sister doesn't even know that detail. even if he hadn't cheated and just came out as gay, my parents still wouldn't be together he still would've been lying to us.

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Anonymous OP 1d

again, i'm not justifying cheating it's obviously one of the worst things a person can do which is why i put it on the list. i think my mom was in the right to divorce my father, definitely bc it went on for far too long. however she kept forgiving him due to his own trauma from his childhood. which is again why I think truama from sexual violence is different from truama from being cheated on. it's why i think in some cases cheating can be forgiven especially if the person like my dad in this

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Anonymous OP 1d

case is reeping the consequences of his actions, losing his wife and family. i didn't talk to my dad for a week after i found out but he's my dad. i can't just not have him in my life

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Anonymous pirosnake 1d

that's my bad. i feel like cheating directly invovles lying or omitting the truth since you obviously aren't being open with ur partner. which is why i put it with cheating. i put manipulate bc some people emotionally cheat and that imo involves emotional manipulation but i also could've put it with rape/SA

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Anonymous OP 21h

Manipulation could also mean like they convinced you to sever ties with friends or family they didn’t like. Or even emotional abuse which can be just as mentally traumatic as physical.

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