
Porn brain is like walking into a pizza shop and having the next level experience of getting to visualize the menu item by item before ordering. It’s tantalizing and mouthwatering (and frankly overstimulating) to look at and think about the entire menu that’s available, but by the time you’re done and ready to order, it becomes unappetizing because you already thought about 29 different pizzas you could have had instead of the one you actually got to stuff your face in.
Either that or he’s addicted to porn or he just prefers masturbation over sex. If it’s the third though, I don’t know why he doesn’t want you to help him out. Like foreplay and then masturbating together. For me actually having another human and feeling the touch of them helps more with porn. I’m sorry if this was tmi. I was just trying to understand + help.
i would avoid the labels and just state how the dynamic is making you feel and why doesn’t feel sustainable. If you’re his first serious relationship he might not have the self awareness yet of maintaining space in someone else’s life and thoughts so it could not make sense why his behaviors affect you. You’d hope it’d be common sense but everyone develops differently lol.