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i need to ask the real men here, so why is my boyfriend watching porn and looking at almost naked girls on his insta, tiktok, etc, but he has me? and when i try to initiate sex, he says he’s tired? or he wants to chill, feel like i’m begging for sex
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Anonymous 9w

he’s a porn addict. let him know that your needs aren’t being meant and how his viewing of the porn makes you feel. It’s ultimately up to him what he chooses to do do with that information, and up to you what you choose to do if he’s not willing to make changes.

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Anonymous 9w

Sounds like your dating a weak little boy… you asked for “real men”. Thats that. What you describe is quite literally what a tall little boy would do and act like.

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Anonymous 9w

I used to have friends that were secretly gay who were like/did this. Maybe that’s a possibility??? Idk. But I would most likely say he’s not that into you anymore. You should break up with him, especially if this has been going on for a while.

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Anonymous 9w

Porn brain is like walking into a pizza shop and having the next level experience of getting to visualize the menu item by item before ordering. It’s tantalizing and mouthwatering (and frankly overstimulating) to look at and think about the entire menu that’s available, but by the time you’re done and ready to order, it becomes unappetizing because you already thought about 29 different pizzas you could have had instead of the one you actually got to stuff your face in.

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Anonymous 9w

Yeah… might wanna consider doing the hard thing and breaking up.

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Anonymous 9w

No

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Anonymous 9w

Either that or he’s addicted to porn or he just prefers masturbation over sex. If it’s the third though, I don’t know why he doesn’t want you to help him out. Like foreplay and then masturbating together. For me actually having another human and feeling the touch of them helps more with porn. I’m sorry if this was tmi. I was just trying to understand + help.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 9w

i told him is he’s addicted to porn and he said that it’s not that and that his version of being a porn addict is locking one self in a room and jerking it 24/7

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 9w

I also wanted to say that if there’s any girl reading this who’s addicted to porn, you’re far from the only one. Also my high school sex ed covered porn addiction for men and women. Oh and Billie Eilish has also opened up about it.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

i would avoid the labels and just state how the dynamic is making you feel and why doesn’t feel sustainable. If you’re his first serious relationship he might not have the self awareness yet of maintaining space in someone else’s life and thoughts so it could not make sense why his behaviors affect you. You’d hope it’d be common sense but everyone develops differently lol.

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