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my boyfriend doesn’t trust me to drink/smoke around my friends, no matter how much i try to make him comfortable with it, he’s adamant about me not hanging out with them in that way but i just wanna let loose and have fun yknow? what should i do?
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Anonymous 10w

If that’s a dealbreaker for him, it is what it is. You gotta decide if it being a dealbreaker for him is a dealbreaker for you

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Anonymous 10w

Did he say why he didn’t trust you?

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Anonymous 10w

At the same time, if that’s a dealbreaker for him, she needs to suck it up.

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Anonymous 10w

Ok, but he doesn’t have to give into her demand that he stay in a relationship with her.

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Anonymous 10w

You said she shouldn’t have to suck it up if he wants to break up with her.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

his ex cheated on him while under the influence so i understand how its just very anxiety causing but he wont give me a chance to prove im different

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

but also for some context i’ve gone out in the past even after he told me he was uncomfortable w it bc it involves me drinking w friends…idk if that makes me an asshole but is it like i’m supposed to never go out with my friends again😅?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

That’s such a stupid reason. Why is he punishing YOU for what HIS ex did, you’re not his ex?! Tbh I would go and not tell him (as bad as that sounds). He can have his worries and boundaries, fine, but he hasn’t even tried to put any trust in you, and he shouldn’t impose restrictions on YOUR life in the first place!

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

If you were doing that before you were with him why should you just suddenly stop, and change your life for him, just because his ex did that? That’s ridiculous

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10w

Literally what I’m saying but people can’t read anymore ig

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

😅😅didn’t mean to anger anyone, just really going through it rn. we were together a long time

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Anonymous 10w

At the same time if she blatantly disregards something that clearly makes him uncomfortable he has every right to leave.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

Not in the slightest lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 9w

You can’t read

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