Anonymous #3 13w

What does that mean

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Anonymous OP 13w

I still approach women in terms of friendship or for help, but not for dating

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Anonymous #3 13w

Why

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Anonymous #4 13w

?

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Anonymous #12 13w

How so

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Anonymous #10 13w

So that’s the same as cold approaching lol

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Anonymous OP 13w

Oh, THEN IM COLD YO

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Anonymous #10 13w

We still do like being approached. I saw some dude online say if he had permission to flirt it he came up to a girl and I liked that

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Anonymous vangogh 13w

Do you want to date tho? Bc if you do, that’s really the only way to do it

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Anonymous #14 13w

Why not

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Anonymous #15 13w

What risk? And there’s ways to go about it where it’s not viewed as creepy

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Anonymous OP 13w

The risk he is speaking about is the humiliation of her telling someone that they asked her out and she said no. I don’t really have that fear but it’s an understandable one

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Anonymous #10 13w

How would he even know if she told someone? And that’s what happens, doesn’t mean it’s mena natured

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Anonymous OP 13w

It’s just the embarrassment of being rejected then publicly outed by someone you hoped to develop a relationship with. If I’m rejected by someone idk then its not that deep but like imagine you’re asking out someone who knows your friends, tells your friends, now they all know you took a fat L.

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Anonymous #10 13w

I mean isn’t that life? I’ve been rejected too and it’s not the end of of the world.

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Anonymous OP 13w

How so? And the risk of being labeled weird or creepy, also the risk of losing someone who you could be friends with.

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Anonymous OP 13w

Rejection isn’t the issue, it’s the humiliation of someone laughing at you/ making you out to be a bad person for it. Thats why a lot of men won’t do it

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Anonymous #10 13w

But who is doing that so often? I’ve seen plenty of girls get slaked out, iv experienced it myself and if we’ve said no 9/10 times it’s been polite

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Anonymous OP 13w

It’s not for women, but for men if a women lies it can be devastating. A women could say a guy is harassing her after just saying he likes her and with no evidence still be believed.

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Anonymous OP 13w

You don’t get it, the guys have problems with the fact that a woman will then go to her friends and tell them that you shot your shot. Thats what guys dont want happening. If someone asks you out and you’re not interested just keep it pushing don’t tell everybody

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Anonymous #10 13w

Like in front of everyone? Or

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Anonymous OP 13w

Like just take it as a compliment because he found you attractive and leave it be pretty much

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Anonymous #10 13w

I mean if a guy asked me out I’m gonna tell my friends later. Not anything malicious, just that I got asked out lmao

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Anonymous OP 13w

Many reasons. The main two being that most women are in relationships. And those who aren’t don’t want a guy like me.

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Anonymous #14 12w

I feel like a lot of girls are still single. I am. And what’s a guy like you

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Anonymous OP 12w

no it's not the only way to do it, and i am actually dating someone. we met through a friend and naturally warmed up to eachother, there was no "approaching" involved

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Anonymous OP 12w

Not conventionally attractive

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Anonymous vangogh 12w

I mean maybe? I don’t really have any girl friends who have guy friends so that’s not really an option

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Anonymous OP 12w

then get involved in some school clubs or public events, proximity to other people in a social setting helps if you're looking for that kind of thing

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Anonymous vangogh 12w

I’m graduated, so that’s doesn’t work for me. Trying to move

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Anonymous vangogh 12w

I agree i think being friends first is probably the best way to to go. Worst comes to worst yoy have a new friend :)

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Anonymous #5 12w

then is it okay if a girl approaches you first? Or is that weird to you guys

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Anonymous #16 12w

I would be ok with it. I understand that women are fearful of men harming them. I do not typically have thay fear even tho I have had bad past experiences.

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Anonymous #16 12w

I would be overjoyed if a girl approached me, I’d have my guard up for sure but that would probably make me more confident in myself and I’d definitely go out with any girl who takes has the balls to ask me out

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Anonymous OP 12w

The “no” might be polite but when you go and tell everyone and their mother about it and make the guy out to be insane for even considering asking you out it’s just not worth it

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Anonymous OP 12w

You might not be malicious but your friends might be to the guy

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Anonymous #15 12w

I’m telling my friends, they won’t even know the guy lmao

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Anonymous OP 12w

public events

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Anonymous vangogh 12w

Yeah, my area sucks so I’m trying to move to find more social events. Lol

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