20 people in one year is crazy work, it gives the impression that you don’t care about intimacy or connection

37

I mean I'II say this as a virgin. It's going to take a lot for me to not be insecure. It's not impossible, I don't think ur a bad person or "lesser" for having sex with people, but it's gonna be really hard to feel adequate. It would also make me sad that we probably won’t learn together as much which I feel like adds to the intimacy.

17

It just makes you look like you don’t value sex. I am waiting for marriage so personally it would make me walk because we don’t view sex the same. As for most men however I think it would be okay assuming you have an amount of time to demonstrate you’re no longer behaving the same way.

8

Yes, it matters. If you’ve done a lot of soul searching and can articulate why you did it, why it was a bad idea, and why it won’t be a part of your behavior in the future it might not be a deal breaker.

8

That’s a bit high.

5

Oof. That would be a problem for me. But I’m just some loser on the internet so

4

To some extent overall count does matter, but *recent* count matters more. How long ago was your freshman year, and how many have you slept with since? There’s a difference between an active alcoholic, an alcoholic who’s one week sober, and an alcoholic who’s three years sober.

4

Honestly, yeah. You can do whatever you want and sleep with as many people as you want but I think you have to be forthcoming with that info if someone you might enter into a relationship with asks you. Not everyone is okay with their girlfriend or wife having a huge body count, and we should stop acting like that’s not an okay opinion to have

3

I know girls that have a higher body count than age, but forreal 20 in a year is quite a bit

2

Good lord u was letting anyone in your house

1

Should've kept it going

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