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20 upvotes, 51 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in Ask Men. "opinions?"
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Anonymous 1w

I mean while there’s some truth to it there’s definitely a point of overkill with how much one shows especially depending on the place you are (professional or nonprofessional areas)

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Anonymous 1w

True to a large extend but at the extremes (that is, extremely revealing) I think it’s a religious relic more than a patriarchy thing. Like most people would say that your ass hanging out is bad if you’re a man or a woman. The whole idea of nudity somehow being wrong comes from religion, there’s nothing inherently immoral about nudity. It’s based around the idea that we’re something other than an animal with a particularly large brain.

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Anonymous 1w

Stupidest argument I’ve heard. Because it only seems to vilify women wearing skimpy clothes. If you wanna feel sexy and empowered wearing a bikini, then I’m gonna be right next to you wearing a skimpy Speedo. This is what you wanted right?

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Anonymous 1w

I’m a woman and personally I feel mad uncomfortable w my tits out and about😭I feel naked and who likes to feel naked in public?? That’s just strange to me. Like maybe they just get used to the breeze on their chests and cheeks like how u get used to the sensation of a thong?? Idk I used to show a lot more skin when I was 19-23 but ever since I turned 25 I can FEEEL my prefrontal cortex developing and I just can’t do it anymore I feel so exposed

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Anonymous 1w

No because most of the time this argument is used to justify women going topless. Men have the same constraints, yall just have tits and we don’t. It’s also about professionalism, in a work setting, even a man isn’t going to show his chest/stomach. For example at the beach, no reasonable person is saying that you can’t wear bikinis because that’s the correct time and place. Walking around town with ur tits out just doesn’t make sense.

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Anonymous 1w

I should not have to consent to seeing all that every time I want to leave my house. At a certain point, it becomes sexual assault.

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Anonymous 1w

Dumb

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Anonymous 1w

Seems anti-Islamic.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

Bro tell me what’s fundamentally different between a small chested woman and a man with moobs. A nipple is a nipple. It’s religious propaganda thats so aged we all just take it as common sense but there’s nothing logical about it

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

In colder climates covering up in lots of layers becomes necessary so it sorta gets baked in with religious and cultural practice. In warmer climates the nomrs are different. Often clothing is downstream of our adaptions to climate

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 1w

For sure, clothing is an essential technology. Still, the idea that nudity anywhere or any time (even if the climate permits it) is wrong is something based in religion, not a need for comfort

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Yes you make a good point. A modest Christian person will still be modestly dressed in a hot climate. I do think tho that religious doctrine is often related to physiological needs. I might be wrong but I believe halal and kosher food laws have a practical grounding but I might be wrong

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 1w

Some religious traditions having logical grounding (food safety and health in the case of your example) doesn’t mean that all do. If so then we should be able to point to some biological or psychological harm from humans being nude but there really isn’t one. It’s purely cultural

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

I would say there is if you lived in Northern Europe. But it’s definitely true that you didn’t really need to dress modestly in the climates where Christianity and Islam began.

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 1w

Well yeah that was my point above, ig it wasn’t explicit tho. Yes living in a climate where being outdoors naked will kill you means that there are biological downsides to being nude. However soon after developing the technology for clothes any of these cultures would’ve developed shelter too, places where they could be safely naked without bodily harm. Past that the decision to NEVER be naked publicly is a cultural thing, not a biological health thing

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Ah I see. This is an interesting point. In principle there’s no reason besides religious/cultural context that we should not be naked in our homes. Thanks for explaining it I didn’t really see it

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 1w

Yeah sorry ig I can see how it wasn’t clear. Not just homes tho, public gathering spaces too. Lots of native tribes had indoor spaces where it was comfortable enough to be nude or partially nude and it was the norm to do so

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Also idk who’s downvoting you but it’s not me, I always appreciate a conversation!

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

I mean I’m a man and when I go for my morning jog in the summertime, I’m running around town in no shirt and 7” inseam shorts, and that’s fully legal, so clearly the same restraints do not in fact exist for men. I’m shirtless in public regularly if the situation calls for it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

i garauntee you no women are truing to go topless😂

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Yeah, because men (not all, but enough) are a threat. I talked about this in a PoliSci class I took about women in politics when we were on the subject of catcalling. When a woman gets catcalled on the street, they feel fear that the catcaller might follow them, do them harm, etc. but when I’ve been out on a jog and gotten catcalled by a group of girls, that shit made my day

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Anonymous replying to -> stanczyk 1w

why?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I mean that’s just objectively false lmao, you see that in a lot of places. It’s not even illegal in lots of places in the US

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

religion and patriarchy are intertwined

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

yes exactly

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

Also yeah I’m a runner myself and I’m always struck by how absurd it is that I can run shirtless no problem but women can’t. Like if you’re big chested there’s a practical reason absolutely but otherwise they’re just wearing a useless garment bc someone decided forever ago that certain types of nipples should be sexualized and others shouldn’t. Pretty odd

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Yeah fs, my point was more like an order of operations thing. In the beginning it was religion saying that humans should cover themselves and be ashamed of their bodies. Then from there it was the patriarchy setting up more strict expectations and harsher judgements of women within that framework

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

So I think it’s legal for women to be topless in public in Chicago, and I was there in late July, peak heat in the summertime, and I saw one (1) woman be topless for a couple seconds when she changed from a shirt to a swimsuit top go swim in Lake Michigan. Even where it’s legal, it’s still not common.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

I wasn’t looking for it though and only saw that because I was in the park smoking a joint facing Lake Michigan before I went for a stoned swim myself, and she just happened to be in front of me. Maybe it happens all the time and I just wasn’t paying attention.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

Nah I mean you’re right it being legal in many places doesn’t mean that it’s super common and I totally get why. 1. Right or wrong it is the culture we’re a part of and that culture finds topless women to be something notable and worth reaction and scrutiny. It probably just feels weird! But 2. It’s gotta be a safety / keeping creeps away thing too. I can absolutely understand not wanting the attention

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Also side note high swimming sounds fun asf! I’ve never done it but I’d love to try, is the lake warm enough tho? I’m down in stl but go to Chicago on occasion. High running also slaps if you’ve never tried it

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 1w

I fear you drastically missed the point

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1w

all religion oppresses women

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 1w

you missed the point

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

high swimming is extremely fun, i would highly reccomend. be safe tho

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1w

we're not talking about a womans bare breasts or ass we're talking about legs, middrift, shoulders, etc.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

The lake is chilly enough to be really nice after walking around the city in the summer heat, but not so cold it’s unbearable lol people swim there all the time, it’s not Superior

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Who tf thinks shoulders are inappropriate this isn’t 1892

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1w

you would be fucking surprised

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Nah I think you’re just lashing out at a school dress code that no longer applies

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1w

Ngl this is sort of a wild inversion. Someone not covering themselves to your standards is assault on your eyes? I feel like you could find communities where people share those values and have dress codes to match but the rest of us shouldn’t have to adhere to arbitrary standards to please others, it’s just a body

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

So by this logic we shouldn’t have laws against indecent exposure?

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1w

I don’t think so no. If someone exposes themselves then assaults someone then charge them for assault. There’s nothing inherently wrong about seeing a human body

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

And if your religion says that there should be then that’s your business

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Go find a nudist colony and leave those of us who enjoy civilization alone

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1w

Nah I’m just ahead of the curve fr 😮‍💨 it would’ve been insane for women to show their stomachs in public 200 years ago and look where we are today. Things will progress and look very different 200 years from now 🙏

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1w

nope i have nothing against current school dress codes I'm talking about grown men calling grown women sluts for wearing a mini skirt in a club or a sports bra in the gym

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

No.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1w

Dawg what? Name a major religion that isn’t oppressive towards women?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Christianity.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1w

really bc christians saying women should submit to their husbands and bear children isnt super liberating

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