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Do guys ever like to take things slow? Im a super slow burner and it seems like no one is patient 😕
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Anonymous 15h

Not really a thing we like to do, to many that means we just pay to take you out and spend our time with someone that nothing real could potentially happen with

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Anonymous 15h

No

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Anonymous 8h

I like taking things slow cause I just don’t enjoy intimate stuff with someone I’m not even close with, but it seems like most people I meet see it as me not being interested or something

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Anonymous 15h

F I’ve also been wondering this, so far I’ve only met one who wanted to go slow

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Anonymous 5h

Honesty it’s been so long and I’ve been burned so I think I’d have to at this point.

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Anonymous 15h

Why would I take things slow when there’s girls who let me crack first night and still end up being my girlfriend for years ? Then I take things slow with girl b and 3 months later she’s like actually nvm, I don’t crack, I wasted money and time, and some other guy cracks with 1/10th the effort lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15h

How slow is slow for you?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 15h

Good point. What if you guys do become a couple but shes more slow with sexual things? How long would you wait?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14h

Not being expected to have sex in the first few dates, I’d actually prefer knowing someone for much longer than that before sex but it seems that’s too much to ask

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14h

Personally however long she needs

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 14h

Responses like this make me wonder, do men actually feel romantic attraction or is everything about sex for them? Like personally I wouldn’t date someone just for sex, I’d want someone I genuinely enjoy spending time with yk

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 14h

Sometime I want to spend time with is someone who is also on the same wavelength as me and values the same things. The person who cracks the first night is usually more easy going to me, and we jive well in many areas, hence them Becoming my girlfriend. The woman who “makes me wait” imo places too much value on sex as if it’s some grand gesture and prize, when it’s just sex. Idc if we do or don’t have it, it’s about the mindset and the why

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

I’m not sure where u derived that I or other men don’t feel romantic attraction or why it was broken into this dichotomy of actual romantic attraction or just sex?

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 14h

There’s a difference between romantic and sexual attraction, your explanation kinda makes sense but there are lots of other men who don’t value women outside of sex and clearly don’t have romantic attraction towards them

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 14h

Yea I agree, but idrc about those men’s opinions because they clearly don’t respect or value women. I do, and I also happen to value my time and any time I’ve done the slow burn it has been a massive waste of resources, no romance is really worth it. It’s the same with cracking, if I want a gf but she just wants to be cracked endlessly I wouldn’t be satisfied either. They both matter

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 10h

You don’t have a gf, pig

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 10h

U can’t prove that

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 10h

You have posted shit about not having to be in a relationship and having no responsibilities bro

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 10h

You can’t prove it can you

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 10h

Don’t need to

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10h

Cool

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 7h

This!! I would only be able to be intimate with someone I know!!

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