Ask Men on Sidechat | I don’t understand how I keep getting played. It cannot be that hard to find a hookup. Tinder exists. Why are you putting in all of this work dozens of hours of time and energy, come to find out you just want to sleep with me? Bffr. Why are men like this?

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Ask Men 2w

I don’t understand how I keep getting played. It cannot be that hard to find a hookup. Tinder exists. Why are you putting in all of this work dozens of hours of time and energy, come to find out you just want to sleep with me? Bffr. Why are men like this?

Anonymous 1w

Where are you meeting these guys, what do you look for in men, how are you getting played (ghosted after hookup, offered fwb, ghosted after declining hookup), etc. you need to provide more information if you want a proper answer to why this is happening to you and how to fix it

Anonymous 2w

Because why bother committing?

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Anonymous

#1 1w

You’re the problem

Anonymous

OP 1w

yea, but the *only* reason men like this exist is because promiscuous women let them get away with it. For them they can already get what they want (sex) from women without having to invest in any way so there is no point in doing so since they don't value the diminishing value/benefits of a long term relationship.

Anonymous

stanczyk 1w

Fair enough but there has to be some chivalrous men out there somewhere right? Where are the men who don’t just secretly want sex hiding?

Anonymous

stanczyk 1w

Yeah I met them in choir and theatre class lol. I look for fine arts guys (clearly) and they both ghosted me after I declined a hookup

Anonymous

OP 1w

Ok so the other guy is onto something but it's not what I meant by "why bother committing". What I meant is why bother committing when the relationship is realistically probably going to fail anyway?

Anonymous

#1 1w

Because lust is a lot more short term than love? Because relationships are fulfilling? Because I have a wife-able face? Idk lol

Anonymous

OP 1w

Relationships aren’t fulfilling though. People really forget what generation we’re in and that’s how they get miserable because they get their hopes up expecting a wife when not even girlfriends exist anymore.

Anonymous

#1 1w

They can be if you look for it. No one looks for it anymore. The percentage of fwb has skyrocketed in the past decade alone because our generation is so complacent

Anonymous

OP 1w

No one tryna waste their time looking for something that doesn’t exist. You might as well have just asked me to find narnia.

Anonymous

#1 1w

Once again, you’re the problem. More specifically, your ideaology is the problem, but same thing

Anonymous

OP 1w

I’m sorry you feel that way and I hope you “wake up” so to speak one day and get a grip on reality but for all us normal people we’ve moved on and accepted that relationships really aren’t a long term thing anymore in 2026.