
I agree, the goal is holonic integration, but such a system can only be voluntary. We must acknowledge the inherent dignity of people groups to advocate and preserve their self-determination and cultural integrity as distinct from other people groups. It is not for you to decide when another people group should be subject to ethnic or cultural change.
“Whiteness” itself is a marvelous example of holonic integration, its mere conception should be enthusiastically applauded by every student of history and civilization. It is the greatest feat of human connection yet achieved on this earth, with the unification of Han China at a distant second place. Those seeking to disintegrate or dismantle it over petty historical grievances are anti-civilization and have no understanding of the amount of blood that will be spilled as a result.
White privilege generally exists within historically European territories, sure. Though, there are exceptions even to that definition, in South Africa or Zimbabwe, for instance. What I’m saying is that it isn’t some unique act of oppression that has no analogue among other people groups. There are certain areas in the world (and even in the country) where my Whiteness makes me a mark for crime or exploitation by the local nonwhite population.
My argument, stated in more familiar terms, is that the intersectional "hierarchy" of privilege is not *just* multivariate (as you've pointed out), it is also *multipolar* (i.e. the “straight, white, cis, etc. male" is not globally privileged as such). The only reason anyone would believe otherwise is if the scope of their analysis isn’t actually global.
But although the sentiment of your comment is directionally correct, it lacks the necessary nuance of scale. As an American White guy, I care about Europe much the same way I do about America. There is a sense of metaphysical kinship and understanding that simply isn’t present between, say, the U.S. and China. It’s not limited to race, though, as there is a similar (albeit still developing) kinship between the U.S. and Japan or South Korea as well.
You can even see the very beginnings of such a kinship forming among U.S. allies in the middle east, though this war has certainly strained the relationship. More holons are being integrated into the fold over time, until eventually it spans the entire human species, but this process requires incredible care and consideration. The desire to integrate is usually furthered by regional adversaries like Iran or China, who themselves will eventually be integrated with time.
In other words, “Whiteness”, and its associated privileges, are expanding to constitute a greater coalition, which progressives have termed the “Global North”. The frictions you feel between you and your White friends are simply growing pains, just be patient and they will subside.