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Has anyone else experienced catching feelings for someone else while being in a relationship with someone you care a lot about, idk what to do
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Anonymous 3w

Ask yourself why you’d stay with your current partner. Is it because you love her and think she’s the one to invest all your time in or do you just want to be nice and not hurt her feelings? Gotta listen to your gut but it’s really tough to do so

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Anonymous 3w

Respectfully there’s more to unpack here, imo you need to cut off that other person.

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Anonymous 3w

My advice: give it a lot of thought, but if you truly believe the new girl would be better for you you should move on and try with her. But remember, the grass always looks greener on the other side

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Anonymous 3w

Hey so if you’re considering this your letting your hormones take over your body and you’re a pos

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

But what if I don’t wanna leave bc of how long we’ve been together and I don’t wanna hurt her

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I’m not saying leave your relationship im saying you shouldn’t be interacting with the other person.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

So I just ignore the way this other person makes me feel?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

If you care more about your relationship yes. Unfortunately you do need to make a decision here. Just my opinion but based on what I know you can’t have both.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Relax we’re only human you can’t help how you feel

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

You can control how you act towards others and not be a pos and scum of society

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Dude chill tf out, no need for the hate and judgement. You can control how you act but not how you feel; thats why op explained how they felt and asked for advice on how to act

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

If he wants to be a pos he’s gonna get hate

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Nothing shitty about being aware of your feelings, something you often have no control over. Think about the last time you found yourself in an unpleasant headspace; did you willingly choose to put yourself there? No. OP is looking for guidance on how to react to a very common feeling, nothing immoral about that.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Cheating is immoral, flirting while in a relationship is immoral. Having feelings of attraction for others isn’t that.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

I haven’t done anything yet. If you want details I’ve been with my gf for a year and a half but we’re long distance we go to different colleges and I have this one friend who’s a girl and I’ve known her for like 8 months she’s super nice and smart and funny but I haven’t done anything yet. I’m trying to figure this out I’m not just a horny pos

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Thank you #2

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3w

I say this because *I* was in your position (ish), left her and ended up happier. It didn't work out, but at the end of the day I'm glad I manned up, broke up with her and tried things out with the person I loved more

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