Anonymous #1 2w

and how does this apply to being a slut?

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Anonymous OP 2w

When did I say it did?

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Anonymous #1 2w

No no someone told me I am a slut and need to have self-respect. How do those correlate?

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Anonymous OP 2w

Everyone has their own idea of self respect. If I’m reading the situation correctly, that person probably has the idea that you are promiscuous and sleep around. To each their own, however, I am of the idea that things like sex and intimacy should be save only for people who you really have a connection with. I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and have only ever had any form of sexual intimacy with people that I have been in relationships for over a year for (2 people in total).

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Anonymous OP 2w

What this person is likely getting at is that they think you have no self respect because you do not protect your intimacy. I tend to agree and have seen a correlation (not causation) of people protecting their intimacy (not having a lot of sex) and successful relationships as well as successful lives. I think that if you put that energy and effort into yourself rather than sexual intimacy in the current moment, you will be better off in the long run

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Anonymous OP 2w

That is not to say that everyone isn’t on their own path. If you want to sleep around, go ahead, it’s your life. I just found that it is not my thing and I put the energy elsewhere and make the things I choose to do outside of sex the best that they can be.

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Anonymous OP 2w

Also, it could be a possibility that this person is immature and calling you names so you should take an objective look at the situation you find yourself in and be brutally honest with yourself. Ask questions like: How many people am I sleeping with on a weekly basis? Do I give people more energy and respect than I give myself? Would encourage someone else to do what I am doing or would it cause their situation to fall apart?

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Anonymous #1 2w

He’s threatening to post that I’m a skank online

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Anonymous #1 2w

He’s pissed that he still has feelings for me and can’t move on when I don’t have any feelings for him

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Anonymous OP 2w

How other people feel is not your responsibility. If you have looked at yourself from the outside and have been honest and have found that you haven’t flirted with other people during your relationship and haven’t slept with anyone else during the relationship, then don’t listen to him. The best thing to do would be to block him and let him do what he’s going to do. I understand that it’s a tough pill to swallow but it will pay off in the long run.

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Anonymous OP 2w

If you have flirted or cheated on him, that is still no excuse for him to out you. However, he would have a point about you being unfaithful, if you were (I don’t know, I am just saying what I would tell one of my friends).

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Anonymous #2 2w

How does this work

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Anonymous #1 1w

How do I put effort and energy into me,

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Anonymous OP 1w

Workout, clean up your diet, journal, be bored by yourself. All of the cliches that people who write self help books and make the stupid videos tell you to do. No one big thing will help you, rather, a bunch of small steps that will allow you to take care of yourself will be good for you. It’s not glamorous, it’s not flashy, it’s not fun, but in the end it is all worth it because it is for yourself. Also, you learn to enjoy taking care of yourself and form a positive feedback loop where the more

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Anonymous OP 1w

you take care of yourself, the more you enjoy it, and the more you take care of yourself, and so on

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Anonymous #3 1w

This is very harmful and wildly inappropriate

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Anonymous OP 1w

Little steps over time lead to big leaps. If you start today by respecting yourself enough to clean one part of your room then it’s already a win. Then the next day you clean another part, then the next day another part. Then you move on to your body. One day you eat five less French fries (I’m not saying you do this, this is a general example), the next day you eat 10 less. Small jumps are easy to do day today, larger ones that require a lot of motivation are much more difficult and can feel

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Anonymous #1 1w

extremely overwhelming

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Anonymous #1 1w

Thanks.

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Anonymous #1 1w

How will this make me better?

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Anonymous #1 1w

Why is it important to respect yourself,

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Anonymous #1 1w

How is cleaning your room an example of respecting yourself

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Anonymous OP 1w

You live there… you’re going to live there the next day God willing. By cleaning your environment you not only make things easier and nicer for yourself, you make getting things done outside of your room more efficient because you can access your tools/bed quicker. Heck, just adding blackout curtains to sleep better, think about what getting better rest night after night does.

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