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Why do I primarily attract lustful white men who just want to cross “black woman” off their bucket list😣? Is there a vibe i give that I need to change or what?

Anonymous 5w

i PROMISE you, it’s not you, it’s them. they’ve got us narrowed down to porn categories and not much more. you get to be “ebony”, i get to be “bbw”, an adult site recently released that trans women have jumped to the top of the search list, so they get it too. if you can be categorized, you’ll be fetishized, i fear.

Anonymous 5w

Not only this but the guys that act like they wanna be black guys, like stop

Anonymous 5w

We are all brothers and sisters through God/Jesus, so if you were my sister, I would advise, sadly, yeah there might be a vibe match to porn or something like #2 is saying. Whatever pornstars are doing, do the opposite.

Anonymous 5w

I'm ngl to you, most people don't date outside their race (not my personal opinion but a fact that you can find reputable sources for yourself). When people do date outside their race, it's either happenstance (being in the same geographic area, the same economic class, or the same literal class in school/job) OR it's someone with a fetish/ugly reason. Bc the first option is statistically unlikely, you're running into the second option. You probably will keep seeing the 2nd option

Anonymous

#2 5w

Yeah i figured

Anonymous

#3 5w

It’s the fact that I’m doing NOTHING but existing

Anonymous

OP 5w

Girl nobody just “exists”. I’m not saying you are giving off a pornstar vibe. But the opposite of a pornstar vibe is one that deflects and repels even talking to those guys beyond telling them to leave you alone. It’s a spectrum.

Anonymous

#4 5w

I don't have any recommendations for you but just so you know, it's not really an individual's fault that you're experiencing this so don't blame yourself

Anonymous

#4 5w

Well I go to a PWI and live in a predominantly white city so I know why it’s mostly white guys. I just don’t know why 90% of them seem to be trying to tick off that “ebony” category with me

Anonymous

#3 5w

See idk what a pornstar vibe is, but I do have a rather friendly demeanor. I’m not gonna become a mean bitch just to scare off guys tho. That’s exhausting

Anonymous

OP 5w

Being polite is low key threatening cuz it’s like, they sense when you stop being polite. When you’re polite and like “no thank you I’m good” and they keep pushing, then they’re the ones being rude. You never really have to be a mean bitch because you can politely ask any other guy like “hey this guy is bothering can you get him to stop”.

Anonymous

OP 5w

It’s like: “No thank you I’m good”* They keep pushing, “I said I’m good” (now you’re not being polite anymore. They should take the hint.” And if they keep pushing, then it’s like okay, they are basically asking for you to go to the nearest guy who can kick their ass and ask guy#2 politely to get guy #1 to stop bothering you.

Anonymous

OP 5w

My experience dealing with coked up white boys, the boldest of them all, there isn’t enough drugs on this planet to override the idea they are about to be embarrassed while they are trying to ride a high and get their ass kicked in front of their friends. Never had one push it beyond taking them to that point where they realize they are still a noodle armed daddy’s boy and there’s 6 other guys who have been begging for a reason to make him humble.

Anonymous

#4 5w

Exception I’ve found to this trend is military. Something about military guys, they def date/marry outside their race.

Anonymous

#3 5w

I don't have any stats in mind on that but I don't disagree at all based on lived experience 😭