Ask Men on Sidechat | As a gay man, I feel like I have such a strong support system with my girl friends. I can talk about feelings and even cry in front of them. I’m curious, do you guys feel like straight men have that level of friendship or no because they have to “man up”?

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Ask Men 2w

As a gay man, I feel like I have such a strong support system with my girl friends. I can talk about feelings and even cry in front of them. I’m curious, do you guys feel like straight men have that level of friendship or no because they have to “man up”?

Anonymous 2w

We have that kind of friendship but it’s a mix of still wanting to man up and also we don’t want to burden the people around us

Anonymous 2w

As a Hispanic man. I’ve never had that. Even since I was a boy, I was expected to man up…

Anonymous 2w

It’s different, men have different roles and strengths than women. Women are much better at helping emotionally and socially (support friends / alleviate stress), and men are much better at helping logically and physically (solve problem / move big thing). Thats why both are needed in the parenting role and one should not try to fit the shoes of the other. Square peg doesn’t go in circle hole etc… . Both men and women have very different but equally important roles and strengths.

Anonymous 2w

As a queer man, I feel pretty unsupported by both my straight and queer friends, man or women, the vast majority of the time. I feel like im not allowed to get upset with them or ask for more support, in case they will just abandon me

Anonymous 2w

I can talk about stuff with my friends, I just don’t cry in front of them as I rarely cry at all

Anonymous 2w

I was telling my friend about how my gf cheated on me and then he laughed because he was watching a YouTube video while I told him so no, not really

Anonymous 2w

No I have a good support system of men and women

Anonymous

#2 2w

But they do leave me to be pretty lonely unfortunately since they don’t so the frequency I want

Anonymous

#1 2w

I think this is a good point. Many girls and guys are not good at supporting/feel burdened when people vent/complain

Anonymous

#6 2w

Thus, don’t expect from men, the emotional support that women provide. That’s okay. From a man’s perspective, “manning up” us important and not just “toxic masculinity”. The family unit needs a rock and if your crying and breaking down left and right then your not fulfilling that role. Thats why we get raised being taught how to regulate our emotions by ourselves or with our significant other.

Anonymous

#6 2w

Nah, TikTok says that all masculinity is 💩 and that women can do anything. You’re supposed to wallow in your emotions and blame “trauma” for everything, of course

Anonymous

#8 2w

NAURRR IM SO SORRY KING

Anonymous

#6 2w

Idk man, I feel like at the end of the day we’re all people and have emotions and we all need some form of support, regardless of your gender. I agree it doesn’t have to look like crying in each other’s arms, it’s just sad from my perspective if men feel like opening up in general to close friends and family is a sign of weakness.

Anonymous

#6 2w

And I don’t think because I’m born a man I have to be physically strong and logic focused, I think our society just teaches us to think like that. Every human faces so many different types of nuanced challenges and we need both types of skills regardless of gender. It’s unfair in my head if my life is dictated by a gender I didn’t choose. I can be both a rock for my family and still get emotional.