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It honestly feels like the majority of guys like the goth/e girl aesthetic and it makes me insecure sometimes because I don’t look like that at all. Would it be worth trying to fit that aesthetic since the way I am now isn’t what guys like?
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Anonymous 6d

Everybody loves pizza 🍕 Does that mean pancakes need pepperoni?🥞

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Anonymous 6d

I wouldn’t want someone who changes who they are for the purpose of attracting men. Don’t do that, it wouldn’t help anyone

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Anonymous 6d

I like a girl, not an aesthetic. The goth/e girl aesthetic is cool, but it isn’t the most attractive to me anyway. You’re your own person and should choose an aesthetic that fits for you. That way you find a guy who is into what you authentically are.

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Anonymous 6d

No, a lot of guys just fetishize it and don’t actually care about the culture or the politics (regarding goth/alt, not e-girl). If you’re not interested in the culture I wouldn’t go for it, especially not to just get guys attention

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Anonymous replying to -> pirosnake 6d

Bars

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6d

I just don’t think guys like my aesthetic. And I’ve heard it over and over how much they like the goth girl one.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

What is your aesthetic?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

Half of those men think just black hair and lipstick is goth 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6d

That’s still the opposite of what I look like

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

Either way you should stay true to yourself in the way you like and think you look good in

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6d

It just hurts to know the way I look and what I like about myself isn’t attractive to them. It’s like im choosing to either be myself or be wanted

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6d

Not goth lol like the opposite

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

You don’t wanna be with someone who can’t appreciate you for who you are, that’ll be worse

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6d

I just don’t feel like a guy would ever appreciate who I am with my current aesthetics. They always find a way to speak negatively about it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

There will be guys that do

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

There’s lots of guys who aren’t into goth girls, including me

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 6d

It just feels like historically, and this could be bc im from pa idk, that guys view the way i look really negatively. And a lot of the guys I’ve spoken to, to date or not to date even, have all collectively said their “type” is goth girls. My “aesthetic” I guess would be more beachy. Blonde hair, tanned skin, whites and blues.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

Blond hair and a tan are widely seen as very conventionally attractive by many so sounds like it’s definitely the result of the specific guys you’re encountering

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 6d

Not from what I’ve seen irl and online. It’s all abt goth girls while guys especially online say they don’t like blondes bc we’re basic, for fun, etc

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

Again I think you’re just encountering the wrong people, there are lots of guys who are into your aesthetic

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