
Partially addressing your risk/reward system. Are you willing to live an unhappy life for long years or a life full of memories even if it’s short? I prefer somewhere in the middle, bc I want nice memories to look back on. I don’t want to just survive, and that means I will have to experience the ups and downs of life, and at times take risks/go places even when I’m scared
My therapist suggested to me that I make a list of everything I WANT to do, and rank how anxiety inducing it makes me. Slowly but surely, I began doing the things that made me anxious but felt manageable, and now the things at the top of my list are not as bad as they used to be. Unfortunately, the only way to get better is by learning how to cope with the discomfort and reteaching your body that there is no real danger
For example, I had going to the grocery store alone as something that made me anxious but was manageable, ranked at about a 4. I had flying on an airplane without my family as a 10. Now, the grocery store doesn’t make me anxious at all, and I’d probably rank flying as a 5. It’s anxiety inducing, for sure, but it’s manageable. It’s nice realizing that I’m capable of a lot more and that the anxiety I experience can be managed