Anonymous #2 1w

vasectomy sex is protected sex

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Anonymous #5 1w

He has 2 baby moms already so I’m scared. He said they trapped him by going off birth control and poking holes in the condoms but still

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Anonymous #3 1w

Protected is used in reference to STD’s not pregnancy, while you are often protected from pregnancy, protection is used in terms of STD/I’s where as Contraception is in reference to pregnancy

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Anonymous #6 1w

Tldr vasectomies are a form of contraceptives not protection

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Anonymous #5 1w

Bro leave him why are you with a dude with 2 baby moms 😭😭

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Anonymous #7 1w

I knowwww 😔

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Anonymous #6 1w

Semantics🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous #5 1w

Birth control is highly effective if taken regularly

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Anonymous #6 1w

prevent the transmission of STId and/OR unwanted pregnancy. i guess it just depends on how you interpret it

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Anonymous #9 1w

Yeah I’m on the patch

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Anonymous #5 1w

Omg!!! He’s very fertile lmao..,. Run girl

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Anonymous #9 1w

He has 3 kids, 2 baby moms. Two of the kids are twins. 😔

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Anonymous #5 1w

If you’re on the patch I wouldn’t worry about a pregnancy but I WOULD worry about being with a dude with two kids from TWO different women tbh

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Anonymous OP 1w

Op…… preach

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Anonymous OP 1w

*3 kids from 2 different women is worse lol

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Anonymous #6 1w

also when OP was referring to protected sex the context suggests it was in reference to preventing pregnancies not STDs. but your point is still valid

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Well you should cause as long as those kids are around his time SHOULD mainly be spent with them and he’ll have to be constantly interacting with those women. Even if he stays with you he can and should have bigger priorities than your relationship (aka the kids and keeping a healthy relationship with the moms for the kids).

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Anonymous OP 1w

Yeah. He told me that he has other priorities. I’m okay with it. He’s still together with me

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Anonymous #5 1w

That is not your man 😭😭

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Anonymous #7 1w

We’ve been talking for 7 months

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Anonymous #5 1w

As long as you’re fully informed and consciously choosing it that’s all that matters. Keep that patch on and best of luck Op.

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Anonymous #10 1w

Abortion for birth control as a first option is wild… and irresponsible

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Anonymous #9 1w

Cool story bro

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Anonymous #10 1w

Guys can get someone pregnant and can’t get an abortion or force the woman to even if they don’t want kids. Not everyone believes in abortion and I doubt most people want to be constantly getting them even if they do. Plus they’re not easily accessible for everyone depending on where you live. So different beliefs don’t change the fact it’s probably a good idea to not constantly be putting yourself in a situation where you’d have to consider one.

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Anonymous OP 1w

This^^ not trying to be an asshole, but pregnancy is a consequence of sex sometimes. We need to be more selective of who we sleep with tbh

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Anonymous #6 1w

Tbf, if you stretch the definition of STD just a little, then kids fall under that umbrella

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Anonymous OP 1w

Fair enough, but let’s not pretend like pregnancy is extremely common, many couples struggle with it as is and in my experience it is not something thst easily happens unless trying for it

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Anonymous #7 1w

Why do you say he’s not my man?

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Anonymous #5 1w

Keep it up, you’ll find out.

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Anonymous #13 1w

Why are y’all ganging up on me damn 😭

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Anonymous #10 1w

There’s a 20-25% chance of pregnancy having unprotected sex just ONE time in your fertile window. So a 75-80% failure rate but if 5 people are doing statistically one will get pregnant. So I’d imagine it’s higher if you’re doing it constantly throughout the month over the course of a year. The stats I’m seeing for a year are 75-90% which is WAY higher than even I’d expect. Weather the pregnancy holds will like vary but I definitely wouldn’t knowingly repeatedly risk it.

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Anonymous #10 1w

So yeah it’s probably gonna be lower if you don’t do it during your fertile window but when the exact window is is an estimate and varies by length as does how long sperm lives so you’d have the be EXTREMELY disciplined 100% of the time if you don’t wanna risk it, which is much harder to do esp since ovulation and the time right before is when you’re at your horniest. It’s a lot more discipline than just using protection to begin with.

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Anonymous #14 1w

Good luck then

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Anonymous #12 1w

LMFAOOOOO you’re not wrong😭

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Anonymous OP 1w

K Thanks

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Anonymous #5 1w

That’s so note true. Maybe once but the chances of two women poking holes is not true at allll

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Anonymous #14 1w

Are you on the pill? Asking as someone whose also on the pill and having a hard time putting the condoms back on for the same reasons 😢

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Anonymous #10 1w

Yea that sounds incredibly unhealthy and expensive..

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Anonymous #18 1w

They wanted him to be around. But why didn’t he leave them

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Anonymous #19 1w

God dammit I pay out of pocket for this birth control 😭😭😭 I feel ripped off if I still have to use condoms but I can’t risk anything

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Anonymous #5 1w

My bf has a baby mother and doesn’t want to use condoms also

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Anonymous #17 1w

It is crazy how little doctors explain what all interacts with BC pills and can cause them to be ineffective 😭

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Anonymous #20 1w

we’ve been together fucking raw for about 2 years now and no stds no babies but I should take BC soon I’m worried bc of religious stuff with my family and I use my mothers insurance but yea gotta wise up or stop fucking

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Anonymous #20 1w

I might just be a lesbian, I told him that too. Ik so terrified of sex bc I don’t want kids of my body to change from pregnancy. I love my perky boobs. I’m literally scared of penis. He said he won’t get a vasectomy either

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Anonymous #5 1w

Also yall i probably should’ve mentioned I’m 22 and he’s 37. I know it’s even worse and sounds like I’m trolling but I’m so deadass. I really wanna leave him

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Anonymous #17 1w

Yea I am on the pill! We tried it with it and both of us can’t seem to finish with the condom on so I’m on the pill, I recommend Junel Fe (the bc I’m on) and my fiancé still finishes inside and I have never been pregnant. I also make sure to pee after we have sex every time!

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Anonymous #14 1w

OMG IM ON JUNEL FE TOO, I’m on the Junel 1/20. I still make him pull out just bc im only on my first month and I still get a period, plus can’t risk anything bc of my parents 💔 how long have you been on it?

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Anonymous #14 1w

Wait if you’re on the pill then you’re having protected sex I’m confused

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Anonymous #17 1w

I’ve been on it for 5 years and i was only on it for a week before we started having no condoms sex, my parents were also an issue! Let me know if you want my snap or anything!

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Anonymous #14 1w

Or did you think I just meant condoms and wasn’t counting like birth control?

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Anonymous OP 1w

Omg when someone says “protected” I always assume condoms 😭😭 bc that protects from like everything bc pills can’t prevent STDs

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Anonymous OP 1w

Tbh I thought you just meant condoms but I’ve been on and off the pill so I have had unprotected sex and don’t care

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Anonymous #14 1w

Omg yes I’d love that 😭 this actually makes me so happy to hear bc I hear more negative experiences than positive 💔

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Anonymous #16 1w

They are in most…. Still should not be used as birth control. That’s a last resort measure

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Anonymous #17 1w

Nah that’s fair. In the post I’m talking about pregnancy though so I meant contraception in general

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Anonymous #17 1w

Also when I was wishing you luck that wasn’t me making a dig I was being sincere lol

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Anonymous #9 1w

Last resort if I ever get pregnant but I’m clean vro ✌️

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Anonymous OP 1w

Ok that’s good!

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Anonymous #14 1w

Hey it’s your life as long as you can live with the consequences you can do what you want

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Anonymous #17 1w

Then you’re using contraception

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Anonymous OP 1w

If you feel this way why post what you posted

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Anonymous #2 1w

Well, I want kids just not yet 😭 tho rubbers are saving me rn

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Anonymous #14 1w

😭😭😭

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Anonymous #17 1w

JUST FYI!!!! it’s not recommended to rely on hormonal birth control until you’ve been perfectly consistently taking it like clockwork for a full 3 months!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Anonymous #4 1w

That’s what she said

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Anonymous #14 1w

Because I can share my general personal opinion and views while still respecting your specific ability to make decisions for yourself

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Anonymous #6 1w

🤓

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Anonymous #5 1w

If you really wanna leave him and you can’t maybe consider if you’re being abused. PLEASE leave this story is getting worse and worse. I usually give people the benefit of the doubt but he is 100% lying about his crazy exes. And not wanting to get a vasectomy when he already has three kids and it’s famously a quick and painless procedure (compared to the side effects birth control can have)… I wish the best for you.

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Anonymous #12 1w

I know you’re joking, but referring to children as STDs really shows where humanity is at these days. Funny nonetheless.

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Anonymous #2 1w

It’s so nice to be gay

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Anonymous #5 1w

girl, RUN

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Anonymous sharky_25 1w

The mad girls in the comments 😭

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Anonymous #36 1w

I was a product of a broken condom and bc that didn’t work for some reason lmao I really wanted to win that race and now I regret it 🤣🤣

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Anonymous #6 1w

my brother was a product of failed birth control

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Anonymous #38 1w

Yeah no matter how many times I try to get my bf pregnant it never works

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Anonymous #22 1w

Fr

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Anonymous #22 1w

it’s so crazy bro

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Anonymous sharky_25 1w

Right like is everyone mad at me? Who’s mad??

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Anonymous #5 1w

I don’t see anyone mad here, just ppl giving their feelings on the matter

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Anonymous #5 1w

I stand corrected I found one mad person…none of us claim him that was just uncalled for

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Anonymous #5 1w

darling i’m not mad dw, but a dude with two baby mommas claiming that birth control is 100% effective?? girl he does not care whatsoever, you need to get out of there before he baby locks you

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Anonymous OP 1w

(Not the same as protection btw)

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Anonymous sharky_25 1w

Oh yea no I’d have left him I would never let a man try to educate me on MY birth control methods…especially a man with 2 baby mamas like tf?

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Anonymous #5 1w

Babe I promise no one is mad at you, we’re all just very concerned . This man is claiming that not 1 but 2 girls poked wholes in condoms. Think about it, how could that have happened without him realizing. Men don’t just leave unused condoms out of their wrapper, you open the wrapper and then put it on. They didn’t trap him babe he’s manipulating you.

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Anonymous #5 1w

It is such a red flag when men talk about their ex’s as if they’re crazy, especially the mothers of their children. Can I ask if you’ve ever talked to the mothers, if they’ve ever called him crazy or abusive? Please listen to all of us, we are all women, I myself have been through a similar situation, I am your age and a 37 year old man tried to manipulate me. He wanted me to believe and go along with everything he said and when I called him out on it he would get flustered and annoyed.

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Anonymous #18 1w

Yea I’m sorry he doesn’t sound like someone worth trapping 💀 that may just be me but seriously babe get outta there

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Anonymous #18 1w

Any decent and respectable man would never talk about the women who gave birth to his children like that. Please find someone you trust to help you and run

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Anonymous #18 1w

True. I don’t know where to find the mothers. They all live in San Antonio I think. He doesn’t tell me anything, he’s very secretive bc he works in IT. But I don’t fully trust him anymore

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Anonymous #36 1w

I stopped having sex a lil while ago back in July cuz I started working nights and I’d take my bc at night so I’d forget on days that I’m working, and I’m not tryna risk that even if they pull out 🤷🏻‍♀️ (I have trust issues lmao even with bc I get scared abt it) so I stopped having sex until I can figure out a schedule to take it that works that I’ll remember

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Anonymous #5 1w

Please DM me if you need to talk. I can tell you about my experience and help you rationalize through yours . You don’t have to feel alone.

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Anonymous #5 1w

It is absolutely NOT a secretive job babe he’s lying to you, please get yourself safe and away from him there’s a reason he doesn’t want you finding the mothers…

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Anonymous #5 1w

You shouldn’t trust him at all

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Anonymous #5 1w

Why does him working in IT mean he has to be secretive with his I’m assuming serious girlfriend about his children and their mothers. Have you seen pictures of the kids, have you met them. Have you seen photos of their birth, them with your bf , anything ?

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Anonymous #6 1w

EXACTLY

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Anonymous #18 1w

Oh. So he shouldn’t be keeping his job a secret? He shows me pictures of his kids. He was also in the military if that adds anything to this crazy story

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Anonymous #5 1w

Omg girl the military makes some men insane

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Anonymous #5 1w

The 37 year old who was trying to manipulate me was in the military, is my ex boyfriend who stalked and harassed me is also in the military

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Anonymous #18 1w

Yeah he said it made him crazy snd unstable so that’s what led to his divorce

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Anonymous #5 1w

Does he ask you for money?

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Anonymous #18 1w

I wish he would stalk and harass me but he said he doesn’t beg. I just want a man to be obsessed with me

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Anonymous #5 1w

Don’t say that, you do not want a man to stalk you it’s terrifying

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Anonymous #18 1w

No he doesn’t ask me for money. He pays for all our dates and hotels tho

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Anonymous #5 1w

You need to be careful, this man sounds insane. He could truly hurt you

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Anonymous #5 1w

You are young and he knows it. Im assuming you were in a vulnerable position when he met you, and if you ever get pregnant it seems like he would run.

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Anonymous #5 1w

Babygirl i promise you you do NOT want that…as a victim of blackmail by stalking and hacking i can tell you this right now it’s cute or hot in books trust me ik but irl it’s terrifying

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Anonymous #18 1w

I kind of want him to. And not just leave. We met on tinder

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Anonymous #5 1w

That’s like the only good thing I’ve seen written about him so far

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Anonymous #6 1w

What’s the only good thing

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Anonymous #6 1w

Yes exactly , my ex followed me around, he had his friends take photos of me, he didn’t leave me alone for years, sexually coerced me during our relationship . A man stalking you is not like the romantic movies. It’s not attractive or cute, obsession is dangerous .

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Anonymous #18 1w

He said if I think he would leave, then I should fucking go. Idk what he means by that. He thinks I don’t trust him?

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Anonymous #5 1w

No you don’t . Take it from 2 victims .

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Anonymous #5 1w

That he pays for your hotels and dinners

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Anonymous #18 1w

That’s the only good thing

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Anonymous #5 1w

This is manipulative

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Anonymous #18 1w

What makes you think he would hurt me? He also has a gun, he carries it with him when he comes to Houston bc of all the shootings here. I’m really sorry y’all this story keeps getting worse and worse

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Anonymous #5 1w

Listen, my stalker ex is currently in the military, but i am petrified for the day he gets out. Idk if your boyfriend would physically hurt you, obviously I haven’t met him so I can’t tell by what you said, but mentally he will hurt you . He will leave you if you get pregnant, and he’ll talk about his next victim about you the way he talks to you about the other mothers

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Anonymous #18 1w

Oh

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Anonymous #18 1w

Stalking is nothing to wish on yourself. I pray you never experience it

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Anonymous #5 1w

He’s keeping secrets from you There seems to be zero contact with his baby mamas and he won’t let you He says he’s secretive because he works in IT which is not a secretive job, if it’s software development you may get an nda which then would make sense but just regular IT is not secretive You’re letting a man with 2 baby mamas tell you how effective birth control is (and no absolutely no birth control aside from a hysterectomy/tying tubes is 100% effective not even vasectomies are 100%) etc

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Anonymous #5 1w

I’m so sorry to be blunt. I don’t know you or him, but what I do know is he is 37, a man who has been to the military, claims to have 2 children, says the mothers of those children cut holes in the condom. That is just not practical because condoms come straight out of a package

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Anonymous #18 1w

Thank y’all so much. I think about leaving him everyday. He just seemed really nice at the beginning and was really sweet and gentle during sex. I don’t wanna just throw this whole 7 months away. I wanted us to last a year or 2

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Anonymous #5 1w

7 months is nothing, truly it isn’t. You’re 22. You have the opportunity to run, leave him, and find a man who will cherish you, who if it comes down to it, won’t ignore you, won’t stalk you, but will fight for you and show you he can change for you. Show you he will become a better person for you. Not tell you that birth control is 100% effective and will in turn blame you for trapping him if you get pregnant

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Anonymous #5 1w

And we aren’t saying this to hate or anything absolutely no one is mad at you hun we’re trying to help and give you our reasonings, we may just be strangers on the internet and I can’t speak for #18 but I care idk you but having been in a similar situation and a victim of stalking harrassment and blackmail I can understand somewhat whats goin on and I hate seeing other people in the situations I have been in Long story short we’re not saying this to bitch or make you feel bad, we’re just -

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Anonymous #6 1w

Tryna help love 🫶🏻 (I say these names out of platonic respect btw I wanna clarify that)

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Anonymous #5 1w

You will meet at man who wants to have your children, who will help to raise them and will support you. Who will never say anything bad about you as the mother of his children, but will tell anyone and everyone how special you are , and how privileged he is that his children were created by YOU

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Anonymous #18 1w

The one book trope I’d say is somewhat healthy is find a man who will let the world burn for you, not one that will let you burn for the world…

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Anonymous #6 1w

Yes exactly

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Anonymous #6 1w

This right here

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Anonymous #6 1w

Another one is a man who will bring you flowers if he is wrong, who tells you he loves you, who takes you on dates and dinners, who wants you as his WIFE and the MOTHER of his children . A man who thanks the universe for you every day, who supports you when you need help, and someone who accepts support from you in need

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Anonymous #18 1w

From what you have told me about yourself, you are a great person who wants love and is willing to return it. I have full faith that you will find someone 1000x better than this Boy. You will find a Man .

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Anonymous #18 1w

🥺 thank y’all

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Anonymous #18 1w

And do not think that you wasted 7 month, because girl when you get out of this, you will learn a huge lesson that will make you stronger, allow you to protect yourself, and to realize exactly what you want and not settle for anything less

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Anonymous #5 1w

Of coarse girl. Again if you ever want to DM me or need any advice or just someone to talk to about this situation, please do. I genuinely feel that Helping people in these situations is one of the reasons I was put on this earth, so please do not hesitate to

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Anonymous #5 1w

BABY GIRL RUN WHAT ARE YOU DOING

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Anonymous #5 1w

We gotchu boo 🫶🏻 and like #18 my dms are also open if you every need someone to talk to

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Anonymous #40 1w

Girl- You’re late we already had this conversation 😭😭 it’s over

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Anonymous #6 1w

Thank you 😊

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Anonymous #18 1w

❤️❤️

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Anonymous #5 1w

Sorry if that sounded judge mental I’m just heartbroken for you cause I’ve been in your shoes. 7 months is nothing. 22 is still extremely young. When you hit 25, things will start clicking better. I know you care, and you want it to work, but you sound horribly unfulfilled and you deserve so much better. Please find the strength to give yourself the love you deserve. Best wishes

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Anonymous #40 1w

😨 I sound unfulfilled?? How!

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Anonymous #40 1w

And I wanted to be married now. 25-30 is when it becomes too late. I r been watching too much red pill content

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Anonymous #5 1w

Yes babe you have it is absolutely NEVER too late to get married, don’t let these fuck boys tell you any different (they’re the ones that say us women age like milk while they age like wine when in reality they’re balding at 25 🤷🏻‍♀️)

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Anonymous #5 1w

25 is when your brain is developed enough to automatically know when something doesn’t feel right. 26-35 is when you find your own way to discover what feels right for you. Fuck redpillers. They preach that nonsense bc they want to take advantage of people who are too young to have the confidence to advocate for their own needs.

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Anonymous #5 1w

Hell I’m 20, I’m currently not in a relationship and have stopped actively looking, I absolutely wanna get married but I’m waiting for the guy who makes me want that with him and I’ll wait however long it takes and that is absolutely ok, if you need to take time to figure out your life and what you want then do that you are young babes you have a life, live it! Don’t worry what other ppl wanna say about it (I know it’s far easier said than done and I myself am still trying to get to that point-

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Anonymous #6 1w

But trust it is so worth it to have yourself your wants and your needs figured out so you can set your bar and not tolerate any bullshit)

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Anonymous #5 1w

You sound unfulfilled in your relationship, otherwise you wouldn’t consider leaving. You want a connection, commitment, or care/treatment that you aren’t getting. That man is fully developed babes. He’s going to be like that until the day he dies.

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Anonymous #40 1w

He’s fully developed bc he’s 37 with a family already? I mean yeah I guess that makes sense

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Anonymous #5 1w

No no not at all 25-30 is perfect !!

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Anonymous #6 1w

Omg girl I’m in the exact same situation. Also 20, have stopped looking, I’m waiting to find someone who will make me want marriage and a family.

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Anonymous #5 1w

Your not a lesbian your dating a POS

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Anonymous #5 1w

I love dick ngl. I’m adickted. I need it in me breakfast lunch linner bitch aaannd mf dinner. And dekfast as well. Brunch is sacred. It’s hard bc men I’m attracted to tend to be no good immature whores. My influence helps but I’m realizing, our generation is full of hot, well-endowed lost causes 🙄 sluts til they grey probably

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Anonymous #43 1w

Wouldn’t that mean I’m a lesbian then? I really just don’t like dick

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Anonymous #5 1w

i don’t know, it might mean you’re asexual, like me!

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Anonymous sharky_25 1w

Yeah 😕 I just like having oral done on me. So idk what that means either

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Anonymous #29 1w

oh shut up

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Anonymous #51 1w

Congrats

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Anonymous #13 1w

I still don’t understand this. Keep what up? How is he not my man? I’m still planning on leaving him really soon

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Anonymous #32 1w

Real

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Anonymous #53 1w

Well then this post aint about you

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Anonymous #20 3d

thank youuuu

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Anonymous #5 3d

If he had 3 kids because of baby trapping, he wouldn’t be so confident in your birth control. Any man who has had that done to them where their partner purposely sabotages their contraceptives will have trust issues with future partners and want to do something on their end to prevent pregnancy, like keeping their own condoms and only using the ones they have even when their partner is on birth control.

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Anonymous #5 3d

Glad to hear you are leaving him soon!!

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Anonymous #5 3d

I was really think you might wanna explore lesbianism, I only know what you’ve put online but girl he was 15 when you were in the womb and he alr got 2 kids. This prolly ain’t the first time he’s tried getting w someone 10+ years younger, they’re easier to manipulate compared to women of his age who are smarter and wiser. It’s your life but don’t let someone else waste your youth w their old head problems

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Anonymous #57 3d

Thank you 😊 I have been talking to a few women but have yet to actually hook up. I’m using tinder and “HER”

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Anonymous #5 3d

queen i hope u were able to break up with him and start dating a woman 🩷

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Anonymous #58 3d

🥰 I love you! Thank you 🩷🩷🩷

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