Anonymous OP 2w

This is part two

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Anonymous OP 2w

This is part three

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Anonymous #1 2w

I want to note that a normal reaction to a drastic haircut is something like this: I’ve been considering shaving my head, and I have very long hair. I told my partner (man) this and he was hesitant at first, but only because he wanted to make sure I wasn’t going to make a decision I’d regret and crash out over it. He also suggested a buzz instead of a close shave. He never closed up and punished me over it like your boyfriend seems to be

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Anonymous #1 2w

Right, because he doesn’t realize that I lost so much of my “fire” that he fell in love with BECAUSE OF HIM, y’know? It seems like a dramatic thing but I’ve given up what feels like so much for him because he does things like this or make these little comments that absolutely break my heart (like the most recent one was “I can’t do better than you, you’re the only one who’ll put up with me being an AH”). Like I don’t like a lot of his hobbies, but I still support them because I love him.

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Anonymous #1 2w

It definitely feels like he’s punishing me for this, because he’ll be the sweetest guy I’ve ever been with but then have these random bouts of tearing apart whatever it is I wanna do (like the haircut). He even (like I said in the post) threatened to leave me if I do drag too often because HE thinks it’s ridiculous and I gave it up even though it’s something I wanted to do for years

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Anonymous OP 2w

I think he’s telling on himself to you tbh. I’ve dealt with plenty of the “I don’t deserve you” type guys and they will make you miserable. They also don’t change, and deep insecurity like that often leads to cheating. Be with someone who makes your spark grow, not someone who dampens it.

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Anonymous #1 2w

Like my partner randomly decided recently he wants to run marathons. I have zero interest in running, I hate it honestly, but it’s something he clearly loves now so I’m traveling with him to his first half marathon and getting up early as fuck after working late to watch him cross the finish line. I don’t love any of that, but I love him so I’m making sacrifices in support of him. That’s what your partner should be doing

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Anonymous #1 2w

And the problem wasn’t even that he said that (he HAS said that), it was the context of WHY he said it. I had been honest with him and admitted that I felt insecure sometimes with the knowledge that I know he can do better than me (I made the mistake of finding one of his ex girlfriends on Insta and regretted it) and he said “I can’t do better than you” and didn’t say it was because there wasn’t better or that he was more then happy with me, he said it was cause I could deal w him being an AH

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Anonymous #1 2w

That’s what he SHOULD be doing, but I don’t want to have to constantly bitch at him about being more interested or supportive of my hobbies/interests

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Anonymous OP 2w

I’m going to be honest and I don’t mean this in a mean way, but I don’t think this guy likes you. He might love you (or at least thinks he does) but he definitely does not like you, and there’s a difference. Would you put up with a friend who treated you like that? I would hope not. I think your partner should be your best friend, and he is not treating you like one from what you’re saying.

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Anonymous OP 2w

Usually in these situations the OP doesn’t even attempt to talk to their partner about their misbehavior but it sounds like you have. You’ve been open and honest and he isn’t being receptive to that or taking your feelings into consideration, and making actual steps toward change. It’s really difficult if not impossible to fix that :/

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Anonymous OP 2w

He didn’t tear it apart he gave short answers as you said. Also someone can not like drag even if u do

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Anonymous OP 2w

Tbh I don’t think he likes short hair or drag. Not a big deal stop reading into it

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Anonymous #2 2w

Which is passive aggressive and intended to be negative. Stonewalling and withholding affection can even border on emotional abuse. And like I said, there are plenty of things I don’t enjoy myself, but my partner enjoys it so I either give it a try and get involved or I support him from the sidelines. That’s how a healthy, grown up relationship works.

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