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aita for not telling my moms fiance happy father’s day? she divorced my stepdad and moved in with this guy within the same two week span in 2024. fiance is a nice guy and does a lot, but from day one i made it clear i didn’t need another father figure.
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Anonymous 7w

NTA but I probably would have made a little effort to include him in a way that doesn't put him on a dad level

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Anonymous 7w

He’s not your dad and hasn’t parented you so no you absolutely do not need to do that.

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Anonymous 7w

i mean a little. we tell all the men in my family happy father’s day. they aren’t my father figure but they’re still dads🤷🏾‍♀️

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Anonymous 7w

nta idc. you made it clear he will never be a father to you so why should you celebrate him?

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Anonymous 7w

My parents have been separated for the last 16 years. You can either choose to have a good relationship with your step parents or you can absolutely sour those relationships if you’d like

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

And the stepparents can very well sour the relationship as well. It takes two to tango

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

if someone isn’t comfortable treating someone as a father figure, they shouldn’t have to

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

i was thinking abt it and yea this is prob something i’d do next time.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

my mom and my bio dad separated when i was three. my mom separated with her second husband, my stepdad, once i was already an adult. imo i dont need another parent

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

Why refuse a good relationship w them though

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

Like if this new dude is a bad person or treats ur mom wrong then I get it. But if you’re gonna refuse a positive relationship w them just bc you’re grown that’s ridiculous

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 7w

babe can you not read? the other men in my family aren’t treated as father figures TO ME. we just tell all the dads happy father’s day. i didn’t say OP needs to treat him like her dad🤦🏾‍♀️

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

it’s not about you. i’m talking about OP

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