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AITA 4w

I’m not the asshole, but this opinion is unpopular. The male loneliness epidemic is self inflicted and you can tell by the countless men replying to posts about helping wives in the kitchen this thanksgiving. Disgusting behavior. “Women belong there”. 🖕

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Anonymous 4w

not to detract from that but also men are quite mean and nasty to each other, or just generally unsupportive. i thought it was bros before hoes yall ain't putting the bros or the hoes or yourselves first. what's going on

Anonymous 4w

couldn't agree more, they're also the main ones clowning their hbs when they're going through something

Anonymous 4w

so real men need to learn how to be more likable if they don’t want to be lonely

Anonymous 4w

Gents, is it wrong to help your wife cook?

Anonymous 4w

as a man, you ain’t wrong 🤷🏽‍♂️

Anonymous 4w

I mean isn’t this kindof the whole thing with it? Is that we don’t allow ourselves to show vulnerability, and then set that expectation for other men as well? We have become the panopticon. It goes for a lot of societal norms. Like it depends a bit on how you’re defining “self inflicted”, as to to say what degree it’s accurate, but it’s at least somewhat accurate

Anonymous 4w

I agree. There are some men who are genuinely lonely tho unfortunately, and other men who do dumb shit like that just make it that much harder for the truly lonely people

Anonymous 4w

I hate when my fellow men show that kind of childish behavior, as it is taught in Galatians 3:28: "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus," women are not less than us, they deserve the same respect as anyone else. Sickening

Anonymous 4w

I had men tell me I should just have sex with my bf bc it’s “his one day to relax” even though I recently got into a car accident and am in pain

Anonymous 4w

men are all insecure and they never think theyre man enough so they abuse the women around them, and each other. how you gonna stop being lonely when you hate yourself and also hate women

Anonymous

#1 4w

On some serious shit tho like stop complaining about “never being able to cry” when you yourself bully your friends for showing emotions. Compassion is taught in kindergarten.

Anonymous

#8 4w

True, but I would say there are women who are genuinely lonely. True loneliness does occur, but it’s very easy to separate and only those who truly experience it do try and truly change for fear it’s them.

Anonymous

#11 4w

Kill them and then get a better boyfriend.

Anonymous

#7 4w

That goes for everyone, not just men

Anonymous

#12 4w

Women don’t have a loneliness epidemic.

Anonymous

#11 4w

What’s the context behind this? How did the topic of you and your bf’s personal life become a topic of discussion with other men?

Anonymous

#12 4w

Dude. Read the fucking room. We’re talking about men being shitty. If they want to talk about their boyfriend here, they can. I’ve had similar experiences where my male friends or just men I’ve talked to at my job have said some crazy fucking shit. Women are allowed to talk to men outside their boyfriend, you freak.

Anonymous

OP 4w

I didn’t say she couldn’t talk to men? Maybe take your own advice and read my fucking comment? I’m curious because, as a man, I would never make a comment to a woman about her and her SO’s personal bedroom life, and I’m wondering if that’s something that other men do comment on? Take a fucking chill pill

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Anonymous

OP 4w

The principle still applies. If you don’t want to be lonely, be likeable. I don’t think that’s that crazy of a take to have.

Anonymous

#12 4w

Buddy, the comment actively says they did and I just said they do. We’re not gonna sit here and pretend you didn’t know what you were saying.

Anonymous

OP 4w

You’re telling me that she just got in a car accident and some random guy comes up to her, unprompted, and says “you still need to have sex with your bf on his day off” and walked away?

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Anonymous

#12 4w

Again, women do not have a loneliness epidemic. We are all fine. Some of us are crazy because there’s always a crazy bunch, but most of us are actively thriving. The world is losing its interest in men because a majority of them fucking suck. Korea’s birth rates are declining, Chinese women are paying men to be their caretakers instead of taking on a husband, American women are getting married less and less and our birthrate is declining as well. Women no longer want to deal with men.

Anonymous

#12 4w

My brother in Christ, she so clearly was talking to them about something. This is so common of yall online. You say something crazy and then you go “but I didn’t mean it like that and YOURE the crazy one” stfu and get out of my comment section you oaf

Anonymous

#12 4w

I was venting in a different community about how he keeps getting mad at me for not wanting to have sex when I’m in pain and a bunch of men told me to “just do it” bc it’s his “one day to relax”

Anonymous

OP 4w

So my question is why would you talk about your bedroom life to other men? And then be upset that they make a comment about it? It’s not okay for them to say that but it’s not okay for you to be sharing about that either.

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Anonymous

#11 4w

And you’re fully allowed to do that girl, don’t let this asshole make you feel like you’re not allowed to talk about your problems. 💕💕

Anonymous

#12 4w

It’s literally anonymous. They have no fucking clue who I’m talking about. It’s not like I’m telling our friends and families

Anonymous

#12 4w

And there it is. I was waiting to see when you’d finally just reveal your true self. Misogyny is not a cute look. It’s actually so deeply unattractive. Women can vent about their issues as much as they like. The idea that we need to “keep quiet and handle it” is sexist and built to keep victims silent. Shut up.

Anonymous

OP 4w

It’s misogynistic to say you shouldn’t be divulging the details of your bedroom life to other people? That’s disturbing. You can’t fault me for not knowing that this discussion was being had on an online forum and not to someone in person.

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Anonymous

#11 4w

If it’s anonymous then how do you known they were men? Granted, an anonymous forum is a perfectly acceptable place to rant about issues like that.

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Anonymous

#12 4w

Bc they said so 🙄 literally the only people defending me were women.

Anonymous

OP 4w

Never said she’s not allowed to talk about her problems. I do think there are certain problems you shouldn’t talk to certain people about.

Anonymous

#11 4w

Okay there we go. Thank you for the context, that behavior out of men is deplorable and it absolutely needs to stop. I apologize if I came off a certain way, I was just looking for more info about the situation.

Anonymous

#12 4w

The men were defending a man they don’t even know. They have no clue how often we usually have sex. They have no clue how often he works or how stressful his job is. Even then, there’s no reason for men to tell me to “just do it” when I just said I’m in pain from a car accident

Anonymous

#11 4w

Yeah I 100% agree

Anonymous

#12 4w

You didn’t need context. It was deplorable from the start. You are a dick n

Anonymous

OP 4w

I said the behavior was deplorable from the start? Can you read?

Anonymous

#12 4w

Can you stop being sexist?

Anonymous

OP 4w

What did I say that was sexist?

Anonymous

#12 4w

Booooooooo man says dumb sexist stuff and then asks the woman to explain what he said wrong boooooooooooo

Anonymous

OP 4w

What dumb sexiest stuff? If I’m such a misogynist you should have no problem telling me what I’ve said

Anonymous

#12 4w

Or you have your own eyes and the thread is right there + you know what you said? It’s not my job to sit here and point out everything you said, it’s your job to not be a dick and educate yourself. Mkay I’m done wasting time on you, bye loser 😌

Anonymous

OP 4w

It’s almost like you have nothing to point out because I’m not, in fact, sexist.

Anonymous

#12 4w

L + ratio motherfucker

Anonymous

#12 4w

women aren’t the ones posting on social media about a ‘female loneliness epidemic’

Anonymous

#6 4w

I have a primal feeling that it is purely biological due to competition for who is best instead of being rooted in friendship. I also think that men are just truly envious of each other so it brews a hatred which brews violence, hence the historical wars caused by men.

Anonymous

#6 4w

It’s also just about power sometimes, usually I believe.

Anonymous

#9 4w

Not all of us are insecure and abusive sheesh

Anonymous

#14 4w

And yet almost every woman I know has some sort of horror story.

Anonymous

OP 4w

“We are all fine” is just not true though, many women feel very lonely even when they have people to lean on.

Anonymous

#15 4w

The difference is when women get lonely, they go to therapy. When men get lonely, they historically do very bad shit.