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am i the asshole if i stop texting my roommate first? since we moved out I have texted her first every single time and she just gives me dry responses she never texts me first and i’m sick of putting in effort that’s not reciprocated
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Anonymous 1d

Nah

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Anonymous 1d

I understand your frustration; you go out of your way to have a relationship, but you can’t expect things from people because they will never reciprocate. It gets to a point, and you shouldn’t even feel the need to ask this question. Don’t make it a big deal, you tried, and once you meet a friend who tries as much as you, it’ll be a beautiful and genuine relationship.

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Anonymous 1d

Bro it’s ur friend , your roommate. Not your boyfriend or girlfriend. They don’t owe you much except a good time and if you really need them to be there for u. Sometimes I give dry responses to my friends cause there ain’t much to talk about and we’re not gonna pull shit out of our asses to talk. If something needs to be said, it’ll be said. But I can go months without talking to my friends and I’ll go a couple months without seeing them, and when I do it’s like nothing changed.

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Anonymous 19h

She probably wondering when you going to stop texting her😭

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Anonymous 1d

never text first again i’m gonna be honest she doesn’t wanna be friends if she’s doing that. unless she has a mental health situation going on like bpd or depression

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

that’s what i was thinking cause she has no problem texting specific people but won’t text the person she lived with

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

Also ur nta cause it’s not that deep. Text her in a week or 2 and see if she responds dryly still. If she does. Fuck her. But start a conversation that will engage her, like send her a funny memory from the school year and be like do you remember this.

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