I think it is 100% fair to ask your roommate to stop calling you that and if you wanted to even call her out for giving her boyfriend “permission”. You deserve to feel respected and comfortable, especially around the person you live with.

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BECAUSE they awknowledge my identity and know what I like/dislike in regards to how I'm addressed. Even my 60 y/o dad gets it. My roommate of course has been given the same "pass" as my friends but recently I've kinda wanted to revoke it. She's started blaming me for small messes that I didn't make and she constantly texts me at work starting with "Hey girl" to complain about some new mess I didn't make because I don't freaking eat tomatoes and the mess looks like tomato sauce! My breaking-

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I just wouldn’t frame it to her as revoking a « pass », I would just tell her that you don’t feel comfortable with her calling you that anymore and that her boyfriend shouldn’t either and leave it at that, and maybe give her some options for things to call you that you would be comfortable with (like is queen ok, or bro, or just your name, etc)

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you can straight up tell her or can remind her like “hey i’m nonbinary remember? not a girl” i do stuff like this as a warning/ reminder to keep peace. but definitely tell her you felt uncomfortable with her bf calling you a girl.

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