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AITA for not wanting my friends bf to come with us to the bar even tho we explicitly said girls only night??? i also have a bf and hes not coming. but ig her bf wanted to come jst make sure shes ok while going out. but still no bf’s allowed!!
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Anonymous 3d

Not at all it’s normal to want to spend time with ur friends. I honestly think it’s weird if she’s insisting on bringing him because why does she need him there? It’s healthy to spend time apart in a relationship.

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Anonymous 3d

Nta and don’t like when bfs insists on things like that. It’s one thing if she’s asking cause then I’d j be annoyed like she’s missing the point of girls night. But whys he pressing to come? Let her have fun gos forbid they spend time apart, not like she’s gonna find a guy at the bar. Nta I’d be annoyed

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Anonymous 3d

Nta, it’s a girls night.

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Anonymous 3d

I’m so glad I don’t know any bird brains. why does this have to be explained seems exhausting

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Anonymous 2d

Sounds like the bf is controlling or trying to babysit the friend (in a bad way). If I were you I’d get w the other girls and see how they feel about it and possibly start planning without the girl, or start bringing ur bf’s bc to be honest I wouldn’t feel comfortable being tailgated by someone bf on a night no bf’s are supposed to be at.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3d

its more like he’s insisting to come

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

then you need to insist that it’s a girls night and she’ll be fine because she doesn’t need a supervisor

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

I’m not saying that this is what it is but I would check on her just in case.I had a friend the same thing was happening and he ended up being very controlling an emotionally abusive towards her and none of us knew. He could just be particular but it never hurts to ask if she needs any sort of help.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3d

I second this, dynamics like this can turn quickly and it’s better to check in now than wait for it to become dangerous

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

Genuinely this is such a red flag I can’t ever imagine insisting being somewhere I’m not invited. Men like this are the worst, I have no tolerance for this bs anymore. Always controlling and manipulative.

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