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I’m a woman and I have a male coworker who calls everyone pet names (honey, baby, sweetheart, etc.) and I know he calls everyone by them regardless of gender but it makes me feel uncomfortable so i asked him to stop and one of my other coworkers said
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Anonymous 1d

No not at all, at the end of the day if it makes someone uncomfortable it’s not that hard at all to simply not call them that

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Anonymous 1d

That i was being ‘too woke’ aita?

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Anonymous 1d

Honey and sweetheart I think are fine but when you add baby or babe to the mix that’s when it’s different now and becomes sexualized in my opinion. NTA bc those words change the entire dynamic

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Anonymous 21h

It depends on the exact words and context. For example, lots of people in the south use names like sugar, sweetheart… However, politely asking someone to stop never makes you an AH. If you were rude about it though, yea not cool.

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Anonymous 4h

Is he southern as fuck or just weird?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

If you were polite about it, no. If you weren’t, still no but that would have been the courteous thing to do.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 21h

I was just like ‘hey can you not call me pet names i dont really like it’ and he was super cool about it just said ‘no prob I’ll stick to your name’ it was just that my other coworker got all upset and said i was trying to paint him as sexist even though i swear i wasnt

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21h

Yea then your definitely nta and your coworker is just trying to start shit

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4h

Hes just like extra friendly

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4h

That’s not a horrible thing he he shouldn’t be making people uncomfortable

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4h

He obviously didn’t mean to make anyone uncomfortable… calm down #5! The only one who’s the AH in the situation is the coworker who overreacted.

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