Anonymous OP 1w

I didn't vote, bc the situation's too complicated and ultimately idk any of you and wasn't even there. But gf may be hesitant bc rape kits are invasive and have to be done ASAP else results get iffy, ex might fight claims in court which would be humiliating and painful and expensive for her. I think the YTA voters empathize with her and believe her considering those complications

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Anonymous #2 1w

I don’t believe she was even roofied, she was supposedly hanging out with him at the club before going home w him.

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Anonymous OP 1w

You’re not the Asshole for breaking up with her but you should’ve at least made sure her claims were legitimate instead of jumping the gun What if she was genuinely telling the truth

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Anonymous #2 1w

How can I even do that tho. There’s legit no way to ever know.

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Anonymous #3 1w

She went to a club, wasn’t just like a random hangout. We go to fsu so like idrc if she goes to clubs without me and it’s not unusual.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Whoever downvoted please explain how I could ever know if it’s true or not pls. Genuine question

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Anonymous #5 1w

convictions rarely get put through, and she might believe he simply won’t get charged, so it’s a waste of time at best and an active danger at worst. assuming she’s lying about it & breaking up just after she potentially got raped it disgusting I’m sorry. I’d rather comfort someone who doesn’t need it than leave a victim to deal with the aftermath.

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Anonymous #5 1w

I understand not wanting to date a cheater, but I’m imagining her by herself dealing with that trauma. she very well might’ve needed you to help her through this. I can’t imagine how deeply betrayed & useless I would’ve felt if my partner did this to me after I got raped.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Idk dude, I get FSU is a big party school, 2 of my cousins went there, but going to the club without your partner just isn’t a great idea, if you were there you’d know what actually went down

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Anonymous #3 1w

I agree but I wasn’t gonna not let her go out with her friends just because I had other plans that night

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Anonymous OP 1w

But, truthfully, is a girl who is willing to go to a club, a situation like that, put herself in a situation like that, surround herself with that environment by herself, really the type of girl you’d want to be with to begin with?

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Anonymous #5 1w

Imagine the other side of it tho. You stick with your gf after she cheats on you with her ex. How stupid and useless would that make you feel. Or imagine it from alternate gender perspective, imagine I went out without her to a club, saw my ex, got roofied, went home w her, didn’t text my gf once all night, and when I got home the next day I tell her I got raped.

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Anonymous #4 1w

I agree but I just feel fucking disgusted by the fact that she may have cheated on me with her ex. It just makes me feel like the entire relationship is a joke. She has hated this guy since they broke up too, it’s not like they are friends or anything. And there’s no way for me to ever know if her claims are true or not unfortunately.

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Anonymous #1 1w

Her parents are pretty loaded, I don’t think money or a lawyer was the issue. A rape kit wouldn’t actually determine anything though, I know they had sex but I think it was consensual. But yeah, I agree the yes voters prob are siding w her, and unfortunately I don’t think there will ever be an answer to the truth or falsity of her claims.

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Anonymous OP 1w

you’re saying you didn’t trust her? how long were you together for?

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Anonymous #5 1w

Dude she 100% is making a fake rape allegation she went to the ex’s house

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Anonymous #3 1w

I hope you stay single forever because wtf is this shit

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Anonymous #3 1w

you’ve already shown your apathy & ignorance related to rape & it’s victims. don’t talk to me. there’s no such thing as a perfect victim.

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Anonymous OP 1w

If she was drugged or even taken advantage of while drunk, that's NOT consensual and is rape. A rape kit is meant to gather evidence, not "prove" whether or not she was raped. I regret taking your worries at face value - I think you're set in your belief that she cheated, regardless of what happened, and that it's probably best for you two separate

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Anonymous OP 1w

From that alone it sounds more like she was raped. Do you feel that getting assaulted is cheating? Why are you so bent on feeling so strongly that you were wronged/betrayed by her?

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Anonymous #3 1w

How did she put herself in a situation like that? Mind explaining

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Anonymous #7 1w

She went to the club. That’s like a hella dangerous place to be, no one asks to be raped or deserves to be but the chances are way higher there

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Anonymous #3 1w

Ok she went to the club. You can get raped anywhere.. A club, a School, Work, A cafe, even in your own home. Where are you getting at with this? You clearly are blaming her with your previous statement.

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Anonymous #7 1w

True, but it’s more likely there. Like you can get robbed anywhere but a dark alley at 1 am is not smart. She did something not smart and you can’t deny that

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Anonymous #2 1w

Then she should press charges

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Anonymous #9 1w

Exactly my thought process

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Anonymous #10 3d

Because I currently trust my partner and what they say. They haven’t given me reason to believe otherwise. So if they suddenly got roofied and 🍇 by their ex, then I would need pretty goddamn solid evidence that they were lying BESIDES just “suspicious circumstances” for me to suddenly stop believing my partner.

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Anonymous #10 3d

Also I am a multiple SA survivor and never pressed charges against any of them because I believed nothing would come of it. It would just cost me more pain, time, money, attention, etc and I didn’t want any of that. After each SA I just wanted to hide, stay away from that person, and lick my wounds. I will never judge another survivor for not pressing charges. That simply is not a factor in my belief. Pressing charges does not automatically equal proof and neither does the opposite.

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Anonymous #7 3d

Do not EVER try to report a 🍇to the police when the victim is an adult who doesn’t want to report. That is the absolute worst thing you could do. A lot of us don’t want to relive what happened. The number of reports that turn into arrests that turn into convictions is STAGGERINGLY low and end up just dragging the victim thru more exposure and pain and wasted energy/money.

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Anonymous #6 3d

Is it not possible to run into a place where your ex happens to be and you weren’t expecting them and then the ex roofies you and brings you home to 🍇 you?

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Anonymous OP 3d

I’d fucking believe you if you were my partner and said you got roofied and 🍇 I’d comfort you and support you and feel so bad and angry for you REGARDLESS OF GENDER ROLES BC WTF ARE YOU EVEN ON???? Jfc I guess the only silver lining in this horrible situation is that your gf is no longer having to deal with your horrible ahh, OP

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Anonymous #9 3d

Literally SO many reasons why victims won’t report or press charges. Look at how many reports turn into arrests turn into convictions on 🍇 cases specifically. The number is STAGGERINGLY low and just ends up dragging the victims thru more painful exposure, having to relive the trauma over and over again, spending time/money/energy on dealing with the police and courts etc. just to PROBABLY GET THE GUY 1 DAY IN JAIL BECAUSE KEN PAXTON IS HIS BUDDY

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Anonymous #3 3d

You ever see the exhibit that shows dozens of clothing items that people were wearing when they got 🍇? I saw a lot of diapers, hospital gowns, children’s clothes, school clothes, work clothes, club outfits, etc. IT IS NEVER BECAUSE THE VICTIM WAS IN THE “WRONG PLACE WRONG TIME SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER” IT IS ALWAYS “R&PISTS SHOULD NOT R&PE” YOU F*CKING DINGWAD

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Anonymous #10 3d

Well I’m obviously not talking about a baby, if you read what I said. I’m saying that if you want to make your chances of rape less likely, don’t be stupid. The club is not a good place to be it is so easy to get a spiked drink or lost in a crowd. Clubs are known to be spots where things like that happen

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Anonymous #3 3d

Churches are known for PDFs so should kids stop going to churches? Did you know you are more likely to get assaulted by someone you know versus a stranger statistically so we should all live alone and not know anyone? Did you know that it isn’t the victim’s fault ever? How many people go to clubs throughout their life and never get drugged or assaulted? I bet men feel pretty safe? THE SOLUTION ISNT “WOMEN STAY AWAY FROM THE 🍇YARD” THE SOLUTION IS “LET’S PUT THE 🍇 IN JAIL”

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Anonymous #10 3d

Statistically you’re going to get into a car accident so we should stop driving cars. Don’t bother teaching people safer driving skills or making our lives less busy so we’re not always in a rush or giving people access to healthcare to fix their mental health and road rage or building safer roadways or doing anything to actually FIX the problem now we’re just going to blame the driver for driving a car and be okay when they crash and die.

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Anonymous #3 3d

Also completely passed over the hospital gowns part lmao I was wearing normal jeans and t shirt guess we gotta outlaw those now. I shouldn’t have went on a Tinder date I was asking for 🍇. Shouldn’t have hung out with a close friend of years and years who went to church with me I was asking for 🍇. Shouldn’t have invited one of my gal pals over for a sleepover I was asking for 🍇. Shouldn’t have been admitted to the hospital for an emergency I was asking for 🍇. I was 🍇 in all those scenarios btw.

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Anonymous #3 3d

Do you know how many places normal human beings have to go to that women are warned about? Parking lots in broad daylight have your keys and whistle and don’t wear your hair in a pony tail. Getting off work late at night be careful some customer might be waiting for you. Want to go for a run in the park? Someone is going to 🍇 and 💀 you even if it’s morning or night or afternoon. Remember victim don’t live life at all you’re probably gonna get 🍇 AND it will be your fault for not being smart.

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Anonymous #10 3d

I’m sorry that happened to you, and yeah those should be safe places where individuals should be protected, but let me ask you, if you googled where a predator lives, walked up to his house butt ass naked, is that smart? Again you keep bringing up things I’m not referring to

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Anonymous #10 3d

Do you have to go to the club? No. So don’t. I agree there are many risky places, but the club is a choice, you are choosing to go to a high risk area

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Anonymous #3 3d

And going to a club place of business dressed completely with no idea that your ex is there to roofie you is somehow….the equivalent of your lovely example? Explain that in detail pls

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Anonymous #3 3d

No one deserves to be raped, no one should ever be raped, but people can make better choices. Can you be attacked in broad daylight? Yes, but it’s more likely at night, so avoid parking lots at night

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Anonymous #3 3d

Since you’re so dandy at giving out advice then what is your wise sage advice for those “safe” places I was in? What should I have done differently oh wise one? You seem to have all the answers should be easy. Give me details.

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Anonymous #10 3d

Is the club not a place people go to drink and hookup? I think so. So let’s see, being drunk and can’t consent…and hooking up….hmmm

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Anonymous #3 3d

Is the club not a place where people go to drink, dance, unwind, get hyped up, etc? Shouldn’t they expect to all get 🍇 and roofied? Right?

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Anonymous #3 3d

You’re right doors open at 10PM and at 11:30 is karaoke and at 12:15 is the group 🍇 and roofies you’re right duh my bad haha

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Anonymous #8 3d

True - it’s suspicious she didn’t want a professional investigation to verify her claims

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Anonymous #3 3d

So men can go whenever wherever they want and nothing wrong about that but women yeah so do go to unnecessary places only go places you HAVE to and be super safe about it. Women stay home in your kitchens. We’re not going to do anything about all the 🍇ists or do anything to make it safer we’re going to instead just tell you stay home lmao let’s go ahead and preorder some red robes and white hoods under his eye amen

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Anonymous #10 3d

The same clubs owned by men who do women’s night free or half off are the same ones saying “nah ladies UNLESS you wanna get 🍇 you should just stay home lock them doors turn the lights down low and make me a sandwich in the kitchen thank you don’t go to clubs but like if you get 🍇 while in the ER for life threatening injuries so be it but yeah um no dancing out at bars for you young lady and ugh as for the diapers that’s awful we’re gonna give the guy one day in jail - Ken Paxton ladiesandgents

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Anonymous #10 3d

Clearly you’re ranting so I’m not going to continue this conversation. There are other places to go to than the club is my point. From your initial point yes there needs to be better care for those in places that are meant to be safe. I look at my YikYak school page and see nothing but comments from frat guys talking about going to the local club to hookup or joke about roofies. That is my point

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Anonymous #3 3d

“Clearly I can’t make my point or counter your points so we’re going to chalk this up to ‘ranting’ and call it a day mkay? Mkay.” Haha sure Jan have a day bud

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Anonymous #3 3d

Watch out for them clubs 🫡🖖

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Anonymous #10 3d

Bro genuinely there are so many comments you are making that this whole chat is flooded and I can’t really follow

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Anonymous #3 3d

I’ll drip feed em next time mb bud

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Anonymous #10 3d

Maybe email next time

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Anonymous #10 3d

Like genuinely? Do you not agree with what I’m saying? Do you truthfully think the club is a safe place for women? I don’t and that’s why I don’t go

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Anonymous #3 3d

Bro we said bye and good night and both left why are you still here? Lmao

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