Definitely NTA and honestly really weird on her part. The bathroom is a private place and he is being taught that it's not because of his special interest.

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He threw a whole tantrum bc he couldn’t see my poop. I told her she needs to stop enabling him and she threatened to cut off communication with me bc I won’t entertain her son’s poop nonsense

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NTA oh my lord she’s gotta stop that before he grows up. he’s gonna get bullied when he starts talking abt poop in public good lord

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Your sister is raising a child who will become an adult who won’t even remotely understand what boundaries are.

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Autistic children can learn when things are appropriate or not. It’s perfectly fine to tell them no. I mean, she wouldn’t let him play in traffic if he was obsessed with speeding cars, would she? Does he go to school? If so, this is something maybe she should talk to his teachers about so that they can help her learn strategies for redirection.

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What the actual fuck

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autistic children also need to learn boundaries and what is appropriate and what is not. it’s unfair to that child’s development when they already have a harder time understanding social norms to enable this kind of behavior and chalk it up to “it’s just his autism.”

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Im just like your nephew💯

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nta being autistic doesn't mean he can't be taught boundaries. if he can communicate with people he can be taught right from wrong.

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Nope nope nope. Not only are you NTA but your sister is actively priming your nephew for a difficult and embarrassing time when he does enter primary school. You gotta teach kids boundaries.

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I understand the whole special interest thing as someone who has autistic family, but tell her to help him find something different

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AITA if I say something about him developing a scat fetish if the mother doesn’t step in?

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Give him an oxy perc 30

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