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Aita for wanting to break up with my bf cus he has ed and doesn’t think it’s an issue/doesn’t plan to talk to his doctor? We are 21. I feel like that’s not normal for our age and should be talked about

Anonymous 3w

stress go down penis go up

Anonymous 3w

For further info: he said he thinks it’s because he jerks before we hang to prevent sexual urges (admired it hasn’t really worked) but then he can’t keep it up in the act of sex. I told him he should try not doing that to see if it helps at all but idk

Anonymous 3w

you can talk to a couples therapist / sex coach if y’all are both willing and want to stay together

Anonymous 3w

no. Addiction can be exhausting and stressful not only for the addict but those around them. Especially when it comes to them not getting help. If you haven’t already, I’d say have a serious talk with him-sharing exactly this. That you might wanna take a break or just be done. With this, there might be some realization that he’s not only hurting himself but your relationship. If the talk doesn’t go well, then there’s your answer. You can’t help everyone

Anonymous

OP 3w

it’s not normal and ur not wrong for wanting to break up. he obviously has a porn addiction and he masturbates too often.

Anonymous

#1 3w

The thing is he doesn’t do it other times or every time. Or watch porn every time when he does it. Idk it’s just odd.

Anonymous

OP 3w

wym? can you word that differently? sorry i didn’t understand

Anonymous

#1 3w

I don’t think it is a masterbstion/porn addiction. He doesn’t do it often and has explained it’s just when we are going to hang (we are mid distance and only see each other on weekends)

Anonymous

#2 3w

Issue is we live in an area without any kind of these things near us. So we would have to either travel or do it online

Anonymous

OP 3w

oh okay, so maybe he just has anxiety and can’t perform. i think they call it performance anxiety which can also be looked at as ed. i’ve heard that viagra helps for this case. also, knowing the exact cause. what’s preventing him to be able to perform? what’s on his mind? it’s going to take effort on his part to be able to solve the issue. communication is key

Anonymous

#1 3w

I think I’ll talk to him about that! I didn’t think about performance anxiety at all. Whenever we do stuff over the phone he doesn’t seem to have issues so that might be it. Thank you!