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AITA for coming out to my parents in the worst possible way? More context in comments
3 upvotes, 9 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in AITA. "AITA for coming out to my parents in the worst possible way? More context in comments"
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Anonymous 8w

you’re definitely not TA, but it sounds like you had a lot more trouble with Ray than just lack of attraction, and it might be more effective to make it clear to her that you think he sucks and have no interest in him being in your life, as a separate conversation from coming out.

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Anonymous 8w

nta especially if she was trying to water down abusive behavior from your ex

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Anonymous 8w

Pt. 2

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Anonymous 8w

Pt. 3

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Anonymous 8w

you do sound confused a bit and easily offended. Just be confident and be nice to people and resist getting defensive. Live your life but let others have their opinions too

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 8w

I have, I’ve told her in many different conversations over the course of my relationship with him (when things started to get bad) and 9 times out of 10, her responses would start with “I’m not picking sides, BUT…”

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

yeah, that sucks, it would be much easier if she was more understanding. However I’m saying that, if it happens again, telling her directly “we broke up and aren’t friends and aren’t getting back together again” without a particular reason may be a good idea. You aren’t obligated to defend your reasoning to her, and just saying that it’s not happening is reason enough for her to believe you, even if that leaves out the abusive behavior.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 8w

Okay but her opinion is that I should get with a man who would abuse and manipulate me over a woman who would love me unconditionally, so I should be okay with that?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 8w

Update: she’s finally starting to believe me. She told me she was reflecting on some of the things I told her Ray had done to me and she admitted that the part she reflected on was manipulation

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