Anonymous OP 1w

Then, at the actual event he went on to sexualize the contestants (LESBIANS MIND YOU), making gross remarks abt how he’d be a better eater, tried to get on stage, hit a woman and didn’t apologize, catcalled, etc. I told him off countless times before telling my friend she needed to do something about him and she shrugged it off

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Anonymous OP 1w

He did end up apologizing to me (WHICH I DID NOT ACCEPT. I TOLD HIM TO FUCK OFF) and my friend seems to think that’s sufficient but I think it’s less than the bare fucking minimum??? Idk I’m just pissed that she fucking invited an obviously gross man to a queer/sapphic space and made everyone uncomfortable

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Anonymous #1 1w

Actually entirely beyond me how he did not get kicked out. He accidentally wacked a middle aged woman who was there and one of my other friends apologized on his behalf while he said NOTHING. I snapped at him and was like “you need to fucking apologize to her right fucking now” and only then did he say something. Actually atrocious behavior

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Anonymous OP 1w

Thats crazy, I get why a lot of other girls don’t want these dudes at sapphic events, I’d definitely have a talk with your friend about his behavior because what made her think inviting him was a good idea

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Anonymous #1 1w

Legitimately I don’t know. I’m def gonna talk to her tho because I think the ppl you have around are a reflection of you, and I didn’t realize she was ok with this kinda behavior

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Anonymous #2 1w

Ok heard but I think we can give me some slack because the majority of the posts on here are not even close to being real aita posts. Past tense aita: For snapping at the guy, telling him to cut it out and basically being rude asl to him the entire night Future tense wibta: For telling her that I don’t know how to feel about her basically dismissing and going along with his poor behavior and by inviting him subjecting 40ish lesbians/sapphics to his sexual harassment and gross behavior

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Anonymous OP 1w

what the fuck did I just read i don’t even consider inviting my kindest and most respectful cis straight men to sapphic events ??? I can’t even articulate thoughts. What???

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Anonymous #3 1w

LITERALLY I don’t even know I am at a loss

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Anonymous #4 1w

Women who love women 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩

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Anonymous OP 1w

Past tense: no absolutely not. You should have kicked his ass out immediately, and her with him ngl Future tense: absolutely not. That’s the healthiest next thing you can do actually

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Anonymous #6 1w

I KNOW. I literally was like wtf to my friend and she still moved forward with it. I mentioned reporting him to his captain earlier today and she basically said I was overreacting…

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Anonymous OP 1w

You should report him regardless. His behavior was inappropriate. It would be inappropriate to talk about women that way regardless of the women’s sexuality. And you should have a talk with your friend about how it’s at least a little inappropriate to bring a straight man to a sapphic event. If he was queer too then that could be okay but a random straight guy that like one person knows?? Weird af

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Anonymous #6 1w

I reported him to his captain, but I’m considering reporting him to the Dean too. I’m gonna sleep on it an decide tomorrow/ Tuesday after I get a response from the captain

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Anonymous OP 1w

Get his ass. If he does this at a sapphic event he does this everywhere. Does your friend have a history of being around toxic guys? Are they dating?

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Anonymous #7 1w

I honestly don’t know if they’re dating- she had a minor crush on him a in the fall but he shot her down. She does have a history of getting with guys who are bad news bears, but this is by far the worst guy she’s brought around. My other friend thinks she seeks male validation either subconsciously or consciously and atp I have to agree. I agree with your point- this is definitely not a one off thing for him.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I dont think this girl is your friend if shes bringing trash into your space.

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