NTA. you are allowed to control your life and your decisions on whether or not you want kids regardless of the reason

78

Coming from someone who IS disabled with conditions that will be passed down. This is why I don’t want kids

72

NTA, I would 1,000% abort if I knew my kid was going to be born disabled.

44

Nope, this is something I think about daily and even thought I was a monster until voicing my thoughts to someone who has a disable child and she said if she knew how bad it’d be on her, her marriage and her older children. She’d have terminated. It’s a personal choice.

24

you don’t even need a reason to not want to have kids. people need to start remembering no is a complete sentence and a valid reason.

21

nta at all i completely agree, that kind of thing changes ur life entirely and if ur not prepared or willing to take a challenge like that on u shouldn’t have to

18

i feel the same tbh. i think i would give it up for adoption if this happened, bc i genuinely dont have the capacity to be a lifelong caretaker

14

I think you’re completely valid. I was born with a genetic defect and wouldn’t wish that upon any of my children. I think it’s completely sane to think like this. NTA

11

NTA. In general I don’t think people even need a reason to justify why they don’t want kids. I actually respect people who are self aware enough to know if they want to bring children into this world, but your reason makes sense as well!

10

Not thinking that you would be able to handle raising a disabled kid and choosing to avoid that possibility is 100% fair. Disabled children come with difficulties and medical care costs that are much higher than the average child. You’re not saying that if you had a disabled kid or a child who became disabled that you wouldn’t care for them, you’re just not having any children because there’s a possibility you couldn’t handle something that could happen.

9

As a caretaker, nta. I a personal passion and love for working with disabled people, and even I struggle with this. Truthfully, I think everyone should have to think about this before they have a kid. It’s unfair to a child with disabilities to be born an not properly taken care of, so in my opinion it’s unfair for anyone who can’t handle a disabled child to have any children

7

I mean. Yes and no. Believing having a disabled child is the worst fate is asshole behavior, however, knowing you wouldn’t be able to treat them the way you should and thus not being a parent at all to insure it is objectively the best decision you could make and absolutely not an asshole.

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I think coming up with even 1 more reason would exponentially reduce your chances of being TA

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