absolutely not. cheating is cheating no matter when it happened

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unfair to him? you had every right to breakup with him, and to be honest, that was the best decision you made. doesn’t matter when it happened, staying away from someone like that is best to do. all the best to you💗

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In my book. Cheating is the end of the relationship. I think is totally valid to say: Hey, I simply do not trust you like that

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Break up with your mom too girl

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Why did he not come clean to you immediately. Why did it take you a year to find out? You’re completely in the right.

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It’s not unfair. The only unfair thing is you being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t care about you enough to be loyal. You deserve better

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100% not unfair at all, your mom is tripping! He broke your trust and disrespected you/your boundaries by cheating so he doesn’t deserve you period 🔊 In my book cheating is and will always be the end of a relationship no matter what, you did the right thing.

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BREAK UP

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Definitely not unfair lol

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You’re not TA. He shouldn’t have cheated. Why does your mom care about what’s fair to him?? What about the person who was cheated on?? Your feelings are valid girl

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Once a cheater always a cheater

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i hope it’s not unfair, i’m battling a similar struggle :(

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Once sadly most likely will turn into twice.

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Cheating is cheating. But it’s even worse that he didn’t tell you immediately

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End it now he’s toxic

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Do it now

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My ex manipulated me because his mother stayed with his cheating father and said “it’s real love because you forgave me and we worked hard through something that hard.” Realized it was all bullshit 5 months later and broke up with him

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breaking up over cheating is valid at any point hello 😭 even if he cheated on day one and never again and you shouldn’t have to ask someone not to

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BREAK UP PLEASE. i had the same thing happened to me and it sucks at first, but you’ll look back and be so grateful that you got away. Once they start and know they can get away with it, they’ll never stop.

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Nah fuck him once a cheater always a cheater

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No not invalid at all that mistrust is still lingering in your relationship

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YES MAAM 100% VALID BABE

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Unfortunately it sounds like mom was definitely a cheater before she got married because idk how tf anyone could have sympathy for a cheater. Not to mention it’s for the one who cheated on her daughter. To answer your question, yes it is extremely valid. Your relationship will always be plagued by the one wrong and you won’t be able to just forget it and move on. A normal boyfriend wouldn’t bring these worries onto you and you deserve better than normal

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That guy can kick rocks fr

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i don’t think it’s unfair. if you still can’t trust him, then i think it’s valid to break up

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No. It still happened and still hurt and is clearly something that you cannot live with in your relationship (I couldn’t either and it took me two years to leave)

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He was lying to you for a year. Sure he cheated a while ago but the deceit and betrayal continued every day since. You are not the asshole

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No offense but your mom sounds like she’d let your husband beat you because she basically said was ok that he cheated and you should let it go

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Nope, fuck that guy. It was over the moment he decided to go out and cheat. Cheating is a choice damn near 100% of the time, if they’re willing to do it to you once, they’re willing to do it again. Doesn’t matter when it happened, he showed you clear as day that you can’t trust him. Not cheating on your partner is literally the bare fucking minimum in a relationship, it’s crazy that he had to be told not to do it and STILL actively went out of his way to fuck someone else.

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i’d break up for less. be free!

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i mean, i think it’s pretty unfair of him to cheat on you… so i think it’s okay to be a little “unfair to him”

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Not the asshole. You have every right to break up with him and should.

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I feel like your holding yourself back by not forgiving them. Does that mean you have to talk with them, or get back with them, ABSOLUTELY NOT! But forgiving and moving on will help the healing process

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Nta, relationships are about what you can live with and if you can’t live with it, you’re doing both of you a service by breaking up

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Well if you chose to stay with him, maybe you should try to find forgiveness or if you can’t see yourself trusting him again then I think you should leave and find someone better

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Yes it’s valid. The fuck kind of question is this?

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