Anonymous #1 1w

You mostly took your own feelings into account and didn't stop to think about how he might have felt with you asking him to do that especially when you were okay with it before and now you're kinda punishing him for nothinf

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Anonymous #1 1w

I’m not trying to sound dramatic but I rarely ever get these feelings. My mother had a severe car accident in one and another my grandmother died of a heart attack. When I was younger I begged my father to not get on a bus to leave somewhere north and he didn’t and later we found out it wrecked. I don’t mean to be controlling or blame it on just a “feeling” im just genuinely concerned

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Anonymous #1 1w

I do appreciate you taking the time though to give me another perspective on things. I hope to sort this out

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Anonymous OP 1w

Listen, your feelings are valid, asking him is valid, however giving him an ultimatum and packing his things when he doesn't agree to stay on the basis of a "feeling" is completely unfair. A feeling is not valid evidence for someone to do something you want them/dont want them to do. Despite what you're saying, that IS controlling. Yes he should have reassured you with his reply but you cannot control his behavior to make yourself at ease

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Anonymous #1 1w

The packing up everything he’s given me is more based on the fact of his reaction instead of him actually going. I wasn’t even given the chance to explain. Should I try to talk to him or leave this alone for a couple days?

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Anonymous OP 1w

I think its better to just talk about it then and there since this seems like a communication issue on both ends. He shouldn't have said what he said and you shouldn't have said and did what you said/did. State your case but allow him to do the same and hopefully you both end with an apology to each other

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Anonymous OP 1w

You’ve clearly been through a lot with the deaths in your life, having family taken away so abruptly can be so traumatic and I’m sorry love. That feeling is your grief, you’re scared of losing him in an instant, the anxiety takes over and you think you’re right but you’re not. The truth is no feeling can stop fate, do not dwell on the what if’s but focus on what you have now and embrace each second with your loved ones

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Anonymous #1 1w

You’re completely right, thank you.

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Anonymous #2 1w

I appreciate your words. This definitely helps me settle my mind. Rather than spending the rest of my time upset and angry I should just hope for a safe return and hope for a civil and understanding conversation.

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