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AITA 4w
my mom has recently been in process of basically cutting off her family of origin. completely understandable for her, seeing as she went through heavy emotional abuse, slight physical abuse, and loads of trauma. yet she still wants me to have a good…
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Anonymous 4w

relationship with her parents, which is understandable seeing as they’re my grandparents. but AITA for not wanting much of a relationship with her family of origin? like i know they’re my family but so is my mom. like more-so than any of them obviously. i just hate how bad they treated her tbh.

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Anonymous 4w

NTA

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Anonymous 3w

Nta honestly Nobel of your mom to leave that option of you having a relationship with fam of origin, but also you should get to decide which family relationships you want to maintain and build and which you don’t. And if you don’t want a relationship that’s super valid and your reasoning makes sense

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

also i should add that her family of origin is lowkey so awful that even at least one of my cousins sees my mom as more of his 2nd mom than he sees his dad (my mom’s brother) as his dad. my dad is basically his dad. they practically raised him for years.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

thank you!! it’s honestly also really hard to have much respect for my mom’s father and brothers bc they’re pretty much all misogynists and both my mom’s parents are narcissists. so, especially as my moms only daughter, it’s hard to not see parallels in the way they belittle her and they way they WOULD belittle me if i was her, if that makes sense.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Yes perfect sense. Time passed but they’re likely the same people. Ehh si next yourself to thag when you’ve seen what they’ve already done. Eso of they’ve made little effort to change. Protect your peace and it’s unfortunate your fam is this way, but I’m pro found family. No need to tolerate people who don’t respect you or those around you

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