
not at all. it’s selfish for someone to correct you to go thru that trauma just because they have a death wish. they don’t realize the trauma starts the day they get it not the day they die. it’s not worth staying up late wondering if that night will be the night. so no you are in no way and never will be the asshole.
You’re not an asshole for being worried and upset about it but it is a little selfish. I would hope that if this is what he wants he knows and understands the risks and is prepared to take all the proper safety precautions but in the end it’s his life. You’re nta if you break up with him tho that’s intense potential trauma and if you don’t want to risk that that’s ok