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AITA 22h
my bf & i never have sex. we've been tog for 4mo & only had sex 3 time, unsuccessfully. he doesn't like touch me or do oral and he doesn't stay hard. i'm considering ending it cuz i don't feel wanted or that he's attracted to me even though he says he is
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Anonymous 20h

Sexual compatibility is an important factor in relationships. If you don’t feel fulfilled or if pushing more makes him uncomfortable, it sounds like the two of you just aren’t compatible that way

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Anonymous 20h

Have you talked to him abt it? Some guys do just genuinely have a hard time staying hard/knowing what to do in bed despite wanting to do better. I’d see if he has any desire to improve but if not I don’t think you’re wrong for ending things

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Anonymous 15h

Hi OP, this can be a sensor issue. Intimacy is about mapping out the sensor and what both partners like. Then they both dance while keeping the mood. Just how dancing needs practice, so does sex as both map the sensors.

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Anonymous 22h

Cheat on him with me

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 20h

i have talked to him abt it in a respectful way because of how i was feeling emotionally and then he got upset kinda saying he felt a lot of pressure, when i wasn't pressuring him at all, but hes kinda trying and kinda not, he told me he was ready for oral and was about to do it and freaked out, and insulted me, which no one in the past had reacted that way, and he made me feel awful about it, and

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

Yeah that sucks. Maybe bring up the fact that you’re feeling unappreciated / unwanted and thinking about leaving over it, just see what he does/how he reacts

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11h

For every downvote is the negative game you have after typing that

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 11h

What

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 11h

I’m assuming it’s an autism thing

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 9h

Hi, I am trying not to be explicit. The body has emotions and senses. As couples know each other over time, all that is mapped. Without it, they can’t synchronize when their clock for pleasure are different.

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