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Lowkey I now understand what people mean when they’re like “when you try to befriend the kid no one likes then but you see why” because there’s a difference between missing social cues and completely disregarding boundaries 💀
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Anonymous 3w

Nah I knew a guy like that at one point in college, and at first I was like “oh this guy’s just autistic and got homeschooled, but he ain’t a bad person” and then I saw the way he responded when he got confronted by social difficulty. Had to drop that mf like he was hot. Like man, I get that you didn’t get properly socialized earlier, and that sucks, but you can’t go lashing out every time a social situation doesn’t go the way you expect

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Anonymous 3w

me in high school when i tried to befriend a guy no one liked and then i found out it was bc he was racist (he said black women are loud and unattractive--mind you, i wasn't flirting with him!)

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Anonymous 3w

tried to befriend one of these, got along okay for a bit, then he SAd me ☹️

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Anonymous 3w

was forced into proximity with a guy like that cause he was dating a friend of mine, after they broke up he harassed her for a full year and got title 9’d 😭

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Anonymous 3w

I definitely had this experience in middle school. She turned out to be a bully, a thief, and a racist. She also smelled really bad 😭

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Anonymous 3w

"surely everyone just avoids them because they're non binary and probably neurodivergent in a tennessee public high school" ...no. i mean, some people, probably, yeah. but that was definitely not their sin.

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Anonymous 2w

Yeahhh I made this mistake. Befriended a woman who complained that “all her friends always left her” and she had no real long term friendships. I quickly found out why. She was 100% the problem. She was jealous of my other friends, acted clingy/borderline stalkerish, and started drama over everything. She was the very easily offended type. I cut her off and never looked back

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

A lot of it was about women, and that shit got to a point where I just had to be like “look man, your social difficulties are not an excuse for the intensely chauvinistic attitudes you are putting on full display, and these attitudes will only harm your future prospects” and had to kick him out of the student club we met in for sexual harassment. Dude tried to come back once I was out of leadership, was around for like 2 months, kicked out for sexual harassment again. Shocker.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

Omg yes literally the same with this guy 😭 he’s constantly ranting and raving about women being “rude” and “dismissive” and it’s like dude it really gets to a point. Maybe you didn’t mean to come off the way you did but it takes two seconds to reevaluate your behavior instead of just blaming and criticizing everyone else

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I mean, I’m a dude, I’m high-functioning autistic, I’ve had my difficulties in the romantic sphere. So when this guy would ask me for advice and whatnot, I’d do my best to give it to him. I’d do my best to make him confident about himself. Then women started complaining to me about him, and I had to be like “Yeah okay, I’ve heard enough, he’s out”

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Ewwww 🤢 no I hate when they confuse kindness and basic respect for flirting like gtfo

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Omg I’m so sorry :( I hope you’re doing better now 🫶🏽

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

yeah he dropped out and is unemployed, i'm about to graduate! i win in the end :)

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

oh that’s wonderful 🙏🏽 so glad to hear 🙂‍↕️

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

I don’t think you understand that autism is a disability and you just can’t wake up one day react differently💀

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Anonymous replying to -> taffyxx 3w

While I agree, that being autistic is an excuse for all the other things he did, but people seem to think that puts them into a meltdown and just not do it it’s not how it works

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Anonymous replying to -> taffyxx 3w

Not*

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

that's what happened with mine in high school 💔 i was just wanting more friends in a new school, man

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 3w

no yea definitely I more so meant like wow I now have first hand experience 😭 it was more of a rant bc this man fully pissed me off

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 3w

it took me a hot minute to be comfortable with male friends again ngl

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