She's smaller than me so when she calls herself fat, it just makes me feel bad about myself and my body and when I've told her about how it made me feel, she would tell me that I'm beautiful and that there's nothing wrong with my body. But she keeps doing the same thing and I can't help but feel guilty whenever I would feel upset about her insulting her body.

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I think this has little to do with you and everything to do with her body imagine struggles which she’s voicing to you. Had a similar friend and later learned she struggled with an eating disorder, but it j made me uncomfortable bc she was smaller than me but we were both a healthy weight so when she’d treat herself like that I felt obligated to counter it and it got exhausting. Nta, but chose your battles and set your boundaries

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No she’s definitely weird asf and projecting the hatred she has for herself onto you. If it’s blatant, you’re bigger than her, she has not business saying stupid shit like that putting u in the compromised position of having to now butter up her self esteem for her when she’s taking silent blows at your appearance as well

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no that's definitely weird on her end, she may genuinely not mean to insult you but we're too old to not understand how our words affect other ppl. especially when you've told her

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Maybe I'm overreacting and taking things to heart because I'm pretty insecure about my body too. I try not to be vocal about it especially with other people

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I like to let go of people who don’t match my values, if that means distancing myself from a self deprecating friend, then that’s what I do

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