AITA on Sidechat | So my friend is chronically late to everything. Anywhere from 30 mins- 2 hrs or more. We try to be understanding but it’s too much. When we confront her about it she says that we are being rude and that she has a disability (ADHD and time blindness) AITA

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AITA 5d

So my friend is chronically late to everything. Anywhere from 30 mins- 2 hrs or more. We try to be understanding but it’s too much. When we confront her about it she says that we are being rude and that she has a disability (ADHD and time blindness) AITA

Anonymous 4d

I have ADHD, which causes time blindness. I often do not know if an hour has passed or if it’s been 10 minutes. I do naturally find it difficult to get places on time, but I have became a lot better with practice. I can be on time if I prepare before hand, plan out how long it’s going to take me to get ready, and then leave a lot of room for forgetting stuff before I rush out the door. If my friends confronted me about the problem I wouldn’t have gotten mad at them, I would’ve understood.

Anonymous 4d

If she has a job is she late everyday?

Anonymous 3d

I always go to work early and prefer for my friends not to let it bother them even if I don’t.

Anonymous 13h

They are aware enough to recognize their disability + behaviors, but they are not putting in the work to manage them, which is their responsibility. They would rather put the impetus to deal with the problem on the other person, which is not fair. I have ADHD as well. Apologizing for behaviors and then continuing to do them is immature. NTA

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Anonymous 4d

No you aren’t being rude time blindness is made up, it’s totally fake if this person can’t be on time tell them the “the World will not wait for them” “the world is blind to disabilities that they cannot see” in other words or another way to say it is: If the world cannot see your disability for example missing limb or disfigurement then the world simply doesn’t care. Also even if you are physically disabled the world doesn’t really care. The world is not going to change because she cannot

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Anonymous

#4 4d

Basically and her bosses just let her or don’t actually do anything about it

Anonymous

ajackson55 4d

I don’t think it’s made up but I think if she actually wanted to get somewhere on time she would find ways to make sure she is. Especially when it’s already so hard for us to get together and we try to fit things in between people having stuff

Anonymous

#3 4d

I understand how easy it is to get lost/distracted by things and tasks that it can make it hard to be places on time. It’s only that we are constantly calling and texting her about updates when she is late and she doesn’t seem like she actually tries to get places on time and then gets upset with us when we get frustrated with her. Is there anything that you think I can do to make it easier for her or to help her?

Anonymous

OP 11h

Time to find a new place to work.. they obviously do not care for their employees, or the future of their employees, to let them form chronically bad habits that will haunt them the rest of their careers!! Boo to the boss on that one.