Now hes not the type to take accountability for anything that happens and that’s another reason why I never said anything. As I was telling him he was like omg theres more and im like.. yea. So I brought up some times that I knew he was lying to me and he lied to me again as I told him that I don’t like liars. That was pretty off putting bc why are you doing that and I just told you I don’t like when people lie to me. So he graduated a couple weeks ago and he had a graduation dinner last Friday.

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So he texted me and said this. Obviously that made me a little upset bc who are you talking to like that. Like youre not gonna tell me to make myself free. I told my friend this and she was like no thats very rude like why would he even say that to you and im like yea why would he but hes that type of person, but at the same time I told him that I don’t like when he talk to me like this. So I went to the dinner but I didn’t really want to bc of how he asked me.. yk

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So my question is am I overreacting or is this not ok. I am kind of wanting to stop being his friend bc this has been going on for a while but i never said anything but now that I have said something and he’s still doing it makes it obvious that he doesn’t respect my boundaries.

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Bombarding them with all the things they did wrong or shouldn’t have done can make them feel more attacked and can make the conflict resolution much harder. Tbh whenever this happens, bring it up as soon as they do it. if they lie to your face, be like “why are you lying lmao” or be like “girl be so fr right now…”. Even if it’s in a somewhat joking manner, they should get the point by you calling them out in the moment. It also can increase their mindfulness as they move forward in talking to u

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