Anonymous #2 1w

That’s where I’m at, I put it on paper and I just can’t decide. I feel like I don’t know either one of them well enough to make a decision but by the time I do know I’ll be cheating for sure so idk, I’m so scared to make the wrong decision and ruin everything, especially because I have to see both of them again all the time

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Anonymous OP 1w

I’d be honest with them, say you want something more serious (if you do idk) and what that looks like for them, you could disagree about big life things that could change your decision, or even just prompting if they want to be exclusive

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Anonymous #2 1w

Thats smart, but what happens if both of them want something serious with me?

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Anonymous OP 1w

Your gut feeling is your best feeling, who could you see yourself with in 10 years? Meeting your parents? Consider your dealbreakers in a partner, level of attraction, maturity, if you guys “click,” in my experience, when it’s someone you really want, it’s never much of a question

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Anonymous #2 1w

The other thing is that if I don’t choose one guy, I lose all of my friends, but if I choose him and we break up, I also lose all my friends. The other guy is also quite a bit older than me and I’m not sure if that’s a green or red flag yet

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Anonymous #1 1w

You can’t really? Put yourself in their shoes, if they were choosing between you and someone else, how would you want to be told? Is there a way to be told without being hurt? I think it comes with the territory of the situation.

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Anonymous OP 1w

If you lose all your friends in a breakup, I don’t think they were really your friends to begin with. Define “quite a bit older” 😭 if you’re in drastically different points in your life, like fresh into college and he’s graduated and living on his own 🚩

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Anonymous #2 1w

He’s 7 years older but technically we are both college freshman, he was in the army and deployed in the Middle East for 6 years, and he’s getting his education while he’s stationed at the base near my school. He lives in his own and searching for a more permanent job, I’m almost a sophomore credit wise and will likely graduate before him, but the upside to that is that he’s mature and not like guys my age. The other guy is my age and is less mature, but it doesn’t bother me

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Anonymous OP 1w

Dude we’re literally in the same exact situation fr😭

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Anonymous #1 1w

THATS MY SITUATION! I’d still see these people all the time anyways!

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Anonymous OP 1w

It might not seem like it but that’s a HUGE difference if you’re like 18-19 and he’s 25-26, that’s a major red flag, coming from someone who almost did the same thing, consider why they can’t find someone their age. Pls be careful

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Anonymous #2 1w

In his defense we’re both in an upper level class and he thought I was older until I told him, and I thought he was only a couple years older 😭 we just found this out yesterday

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Anonymous OP 1w

Idk girl, feels a little sus but trust your gut and live your life

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