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281 upvotes, 45 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in AITA.

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Anonymous 5w

Real. NTA. Just different personalities

Anonymous 5w

Im very much like you. My RM and I just have an understanding that we let each other know if we’ll be gone overnight or something like that..

Anonymous 5w

NTA it’s not fair for someone to force a relationship with you you don’t want. If you don’t wanna talk about it that’s your choice

Anonymous 5w

At least acknowledge their oresence. It can be very isoaltimg when you roomste wont even talk back to you, i said hi and goodnight everyday for a whole semester until i gave up. I got the hint but i was at least raised to be polite.

Anonymous 5w

NTA some people prefer it that way, but your roommate also NTA, you’re just opposing personalities

Anonymous 5w

I consider myself a very social person but I don’t even know my roomates bfs name even tho he lives with us and im fine with that

Anonymous 5w

NTA. Your life is your business and no one has the right to have to know everything about it. Although, I do think it’s reasonable to ask when you’re working because it might affect when you’re there. Like, if I’m taking a nap, something I do a lot, I do it when I know my roommate is not there because I’m a light sleeper. If I’m playing, I won’t do it after a shift, or if they’re there at all because it’s loud. I just like to know these things so I can structure and plan my day.

Anonymous 4w

RM: oh hey man how was your day 😊 OP: 😡 leave me alone! Why do you always have to be all up in my business you’re so weird 🤬 YTA take a xan or smth bro is making friendly small talk and you’re bugging

Anonymous 4w

nahh comments disagree w me but i kinda think YTA. i think if someone’s a mean person and you don’t wanna pretend to be their friend that’s fine, but i think the whole reasoning of not being friendly and chatting on a bare minimum just because your “personalities dont mix” is a high school mentality.

Anonymous 5w

if you’ve communicated this w them then you’re NTA. if not, then you’re TA

Anonymous 4w

NTA if you have communicated this otherwise TA

Anonymous

#9 5w

they do not need to acknowledge their presence lmfao. yall are roommates, not besties

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Anonymous

#10 5w

You dont need to be my bestie to say hi back when i walk in or not give me a death glare for saying bless you

Anonymous

#9 5w

if they don’t wanna talk then they don’t wanna talk lmfao. if they don’t want to speak with you then grow up and accept that

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Anonymous

#10 5w

I did? But like i say hi and thank you to like yk random people and have no interest in a connection. Im really not sure why its a bad thing to just want someone to be kind enough to not glare at me for a greeting before i go about my day

Anonymous

#9 5w

they’re glaring at you because you didn’t stop after the first time they didn’t respond.

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Anonymous

#10 5w

Why are you so bitter omg 😭 it's not that hard to be nice or at least establish that. They are just extremely antisocial which they told me later on, they're actually almost reportable crazy too but it's not going to stop me from being a nice person. I leave them to their peace but im still always going to be a kinda face. This world has too many miserable people in it and you never know what's going on in someone’s life so I’m not going to just get the hint when I could be providing something

Anonymous

#9 5w

Positive yet EXTREMLY minimal.

Anonymous

#9 5w

not bitter, just hate irritating bitches. you’re not providing anything by saying goodnight or hi, you’re just irritating them. you not being able to take the hint is 100% why you’re getting glared at. you’re not leaving them to their peace if you can’t take a hint and are repeatedly speaking to them when they don’t want to be spoken to and made that clear. being kind would be taking the hint and shutting up, not continuing.

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Anonymous

#9 5w

or, just make it NOTHING. THATS NOT POSITIVITY. speaking to someone that clearly doesn’t want to be spoken to is disrespectful, not kind. if i had a roommate like you i would’ve found somewhere new asap.

Anonymous

#10 5w

Wow I clean the entire place consistently, buy groceries for both of us consistently, am quiet and out quite frequently, always quiet except for that hi that probably occurs once a week at max and have loaned money several times with no asking for it back but yet in terrible to live with? I am always open to a debate because I think seeing the other side is valuable but it's just hard to see :(

Anonymous

#9 5w

she doesn’t ask you to do any of that, you do that on your own. i do not care to clean or buy my own groceries, which i do already. doing all of that doesn’t make you a better person if you’re choosing to disrespect her. i, again, would HATE to have a roommate that doesn’t respect my boundaries.

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Anonymous

#10 5w

She never set that boundary though? Ignoring me isn't setting a boundary esp when you have headphones on most of the time so it's hard to tell. And she did in fact ask for those things just over text.

Anonymous

#10 5w

And I understand you have a different point of view but I thought willingly helping since I am fortunate enough to be able was a nice thing to do but im sorry if you disagree

Anonymous

#10 5w

We're also freshman in an extremely small room that I could lean over and touch her bed rn. She also chose to be in a random double when she could have chosen a single. There were options but they were never taken. I don't really kind if she dislikes me I just think for what I have contributed saying hi back once a week is a smaller price than what I have paid esp because she has never once verbally told me she is uncomfortable. She even said she went random to force herself to be social

Anonymous

#10 5w

You sound like a miserable bitch. you don’t know this girls roommate or any context so how about you stop acting like she is satan for being nice💀

Anonymous

#12 5w

Woah guys just seeing this now. Personally I don’t see anything wrong with exchanging niceties. I’m not a monster, I’ll still acknowledge her presence or ask about her day every once in a while. Unless you communicate that you don’t want to speak at all, it isn’t nice to shut someone out completely. I was just upset bc in my case, my rm had the expectation that we’d be friends right away, and I just don’t think we’re compatible that way. I’m very independent and private is all

Anonymous

OP 5w

It’s healthy to have boundaries so there’s truth to what 10 is saying! and after a while it might be in your best interest to just not interact with that person if they’re giving rude faces etc. But it shows heart that you’re trying anyway 9!!

Anonymous

#13 4w

So you’re friends with everyone you meet?

Anonymous

#13 4w

Theyre all just miserable children tbh. Not being able to be generally friendly to someone without reasons is immature and impolite. You dont get anywhere being that way. Probably raised quite poorly.

Anonymous

#9 4w

But OP said they were at least generally friendly there are some other crazies in here however...

Anonymous

OP 4w

… yes lol?? i never use my attitude as an excuse for how i treat others, i’ll smile and hug and ask you what you did today regardless of if i think your personality meets my standards or not… so weird you DO do that

Anonymous

#9 4w

having to classify yourself as “generally friendly” means your a cunt. i’m friendly to everyone i meet no matter who they are or what mood im in because im not a emotionally unregulated child

Anonymous

#9 4w

no literally . “there personalities don’t match with mine” what is this love island?? didn’t know i needed to meet your standards to gain humanity and kindness MB

Anonymous

#12 4w

OH NO GUYS! SOME RANDOM BITCH ON YIKYAK SAID IM A MISERABLE BITCH!!!!

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Anonymous

#10 4w

yikes

Anonymous

#16 4w

yikes to you weirdos

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Anonymous

#10 4w

your reaction shows how right she is lmao. you speak insufferably and your personality seems to be along the same lines

Anonymous

#13 3w

oh nooooo… i’m soooo hurt that some random lowlife on yikyak thinks me and my personality are insufferable :( how will i ever go on? this has really changed my life, i’ve never been so heartbroken!

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Anonymous

#10 3w

“some random lowlife on yikyak” as if we aren’t both currently commenting on yikyak 😭😭 the sarcastic attitude gives my 12 year old sister when she REALLY wants to show someone how “little” she cares…

Anonymous

#13 3w

um i never said it as if we’re not both on yikyak? i was just saying your opinion is irrelevant to me because you’re a random on yikyak, like hello? if you want to think i care that’s cool, i just really don’t give a fuck 😭

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Anonymous

#10 3w

idk you keep coming back to this for a reason bud

Anonymous

#16 3w

um because i keep getting notifications bud

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Anonymous

#10 3w

billy badass over here

Anonymous

#13 3w

or just making a statement 💔😭

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