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AITA 11w
aita for telling my boyfriend i wanted to rewait until marriage as we get closer with Christ? he started calling me a whore and bitch because i wanted to go to church with my little sister and he thinks i wanna find some rich guy. what do i do
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Anonymous 11w

wrong question the real question is why would you marry this asshole?

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Anonymous 11w

Jesus would not want you to marry a man who’s actively leading you away from him.

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Anonymous 11w

i would like to point out that OP said “rewait” was there already a plan set in place? a timeline? if that’s the case i can understand why he’s upset, you absolutely should not be with a man who treats you like that and talks to you in that way - but it’s also kinda shitty if you already had a timeline and expectations

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

i’ve been in love with him since we were kids and he has bpd

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

thats not an excuse for him to emotionally abuse you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

i told him that and he refused to apologize and told me it wasn’t abuse. he then said goodbye and he won’t abuse me anymore. i’m so scared that i’ll cave and go back again

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

you want to be with someone who treats you like shit? do you really think your god wants you to feel this way for the rest of your life? stand up please

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

oh no 😭 Seeing a therapist or talking to a local group that focuses on leaving toxic relationships would be a good idea too, and are trained to help with those things. Finding a *good* church can build your support system too.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 11w

wdym by a plan or time line?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

like “we would like to be married by this time, or proposed to by this time next year” kind of thing what did you mean by the word “re-wait?”

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 11w

correct!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 11w

we planned on waiting but gave into lust

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

...having sex is normal and you shouldn't shame yourself for having natural urges.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

ohhhh i see! i thought you meant rewait until marriage like waiting to get married 😭 it’s still a pretty big expectation to be having sexual relations with someone and then just cutting it off - but if he was the right man he would do it, you deserve someone who treats you better than

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11w

louder for the people in the back

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11w

i’m not ashamed but it is against my religion

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