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Have you ever been on vacation with someone who doesn’t plan anything or give any suggestions but then looks miserable the whole time, goes nonverbal, and doesn’t communicate if they don’t like the plan? Genuinely was losing my mind this spring break.
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Anonymous 1w

Every vacation with my bf until he admitted that he really hates traveling and would prefer to be left at home 🤣

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Anonymous 1w

I’m like this as well… but a lot of it is based on childhood experiences. Vacations make some who already feel out-of-control feel even more so, and children are often made to feel bad for making suggestions, attributing it to being ungrateful

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Anonymous 1w

My grandma 100%

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Anonymous 6d

i love solo traveling

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Anonymous 1w

Kind of sounds like they want out of the friendship

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Anonymous 6d

i felt so bad on my last trip because i didn’t want to do anything and it was all so expensive and last minute but i got a combo elevation sickness and motion sickness every time we went somewhere and then got covid on the way home- i was miserable 😅

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Anonymous 5d

Try having someone that was invited on a trip invite someone to the chat for the trip without asking the planner

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Anonymous 6d

The person that didn’t say anything probably knows you’ll just be mad and nonverbal doing what they want to do. It’s probably a catch 22 that they decided they would endure instead of disappointing you. If they are important to you, talk to them and find a solution for the future.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

At least he admitted it! So much easier to know than just be confused what’s going on 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Yeah I def appreciated it bc now we can save more money anyway or use the money on an activity he actually wants to do

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

The problem is I would give like 3-5 options (ex: restaurants, bars, museums, parks, monuments) and be like “Any sound good?” and get 0 input… they would just default to wanting to leave to go to the hotel/home 😔

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6d

Ur also not a child anymore

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6d

Same vacations were always a traumatic experience for me growing up so I tend to relive those feelings when traveling with others

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6d

No offense or anything, but if you’re miserable on vacation with a group, that *does* affect their experience for the worst. Tackle that on your own time before agreeing to go on a trip with other people

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 6d

^^^ this

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 6d

You sound like a child

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