Have you ever been on vacation with someone who doesn’t plan anything or give any suggestions but then looks miserable the whole time, goes nonverbal, and doesn’t communicate if they don’t like the plan? Genuinely was losing my mind this spring break.
Every vacation with my bf until he admitted that he really hates traveling and would prefer to be left at home 🤣
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Anonymous1w
I’m like this as well… but a lot of it is based on childhood experiences. Vacations make some who already feel out-of-control feel even more so, and children are often made to feel bad for making suggestions, attributing it to being ungrateful
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Anonymous1w
My grandma 100%
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Anonymous6d
i love solo traveling
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Anonymous1w
Kind of sounds like they want out of the friendship
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Anonymous6d
i felt so bad on my last trip because i didn’t want to do anything and it was all so expensive and last minute but i got a combo elevation sickness and motion sickness every time we went somewhere and then got covid on the way home- i was miserable 😅
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Anonymous5d
Try having someone that was invited on a trip invite someone to the chat for the trip without asking the planner
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Anonymous6d
The person that didn’t say anything probably knows you’ll just be mad and nonverbal doing what they want to do. It’s probably a catch 22 that they decided they would endure instead of disappointing you. If they are important to you, talk to them and find a solution for the future.
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Anonymous#11w
At least he admitted it! So much easier to know than just be confused what’s going on 😭
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AnonymousOP1w
Yeah I def appreciated it bc now we can save more money anyway or use the money on an activity he actually wants to do
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Anonymous#41w
The problem is I would give like 3-5 options (ex: restaurants, bars, museums, parks, monuments) and be like “Any sound good?” and get 0 input… they would just default to wanting to leave to go to the hotel/home 😔
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Anonymous#46d
Ur also not a child anymore
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Anonymous#46d
Same vacations were always a traumatic experience for me growing up so I tend to relive those feelings when traveling with others
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Anonymous#46d
No offense or anything, but if you’re miserable on vacation with a group, that *does* affect their experience for the worst. Tackle that on your own time before agreeing to go on a trip with other people