Anonymous #3 6w

I’m currently single, this was just my experience with my previous relationships. I did try to communicate with my ex’s, to varying degrees of success. I’m bi and this has been my experience with both men and women, so idk if I’m asking too much. They certainly seemed to think so.

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Anonymous OP 6w

I vividly remember sitting in the car with my ex gf and her telling me that she needs more from me, and me telling her that I was giving her literally everything I could give. I think maybe I’m just not cut out for relationships 🤷‍♀️ hence my dilemma lol

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Anonymous #4 6w

Yeah I did find out that particular ex was cheating on me after we broke up. It’s definitely not something I’ve dealt with in every past relationship, but unfortunately it wasn’t an isolated event. They always say it’s because I wasn’t “giving them enough” and that still drives me crazy bc I literally felt like I was giving as much as I possibly could. that’s why I’m so torn up rn. Bc if it’s a constant issue, then am I just not cut out for relationships? I don’t want to be single forever.

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Anonymous #2 6w

I’m single now 😅 this post was a combination of all my past relationships. I think the issue I was getting at is that if I’m the common denominator here, in multiple relationships, then maybe I’m the problem? My friends say no, but they’re biased lol. I feel like I give my all in my relationships and it’s consistent not enough for my partners, so maybe I’m not built to be in a relationship. Except that I don’t want to be single forever.

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Anonymous OP 6w

Sounds like you just haven’t met the right person tbh. Sacrifices in relationships often don’t feel like sacrifices because you want to do them. Me and my partner split up a while ago and even though we’ve both moved on to different lives I would still drive hours to help her if she just needed someone to talk to. Love is probably the strongest human emotion there is, it sounds to me you just haven’t been in relationships you’ve really felt it

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Anonymous OP 6w

The beauty of this, is that there are people out there that want the same thing you do. I agree with your friends: you are not the problem, you are just looking in the wrong place, does that make sense? You need to be upfront with what you want, to both yourself and your partner, and you need to understand that not everyone will want the same thing, and be ok with walking away. Do not make yourself smaller, do not force yourself to go against what you want, just be honest. Love you!

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Anonymous #6 6w

i too have been in a relationship like that, and once i got out i felt so much weight lifted. when i met my fiance, it was so different than anything before. you will know when you meet the right person, but give yourself time to heal first

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Anonymous OP 6w

no. You’re cut out for relationships, you just need to find the right people. Good partners don’t accuse their partners of “not giving enough” (like ew wtf???) and then cheat on them. You’ve been unlucky and have met several terrible people, but you’re still deserving of love and you will find it <3

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