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AITA 4w
My LD BF has been making comments about me moving in with him. We live multiple states apart and have only been dating for 5 months. Am I insane, or is this genuinely too rushed? Most couples don’t even talk about moving in together until 1+ years, right?
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Anonymous 4w

Time doesn’t matter here, it’s about what feels right. If 5 months feels rushed for you, then 5 months is too rushed

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Anonymous 4w

If he’s asking you to move in with his family that’s weird. Obviously neither of you are at the point of owning your own place, I’d say don’t move in until you are. Girl you haven’t even lived on your own yet, j don’t think jumping into that is healthy. And if you feel like it is rushed then it is rushed

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Anonymous 4w

And they’re not just comments. He’s legitimately pushing for it. I feel like I’m insane. He even still lives with his parents (not abnormal IMO, I do too), but, man, I’m not going to move across the entire country to live with his family that I don’t even like that much. That’s not crazy, right? I’m starting to feel like I’m insane for not being happy with the idea.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

I would set a strict boundary here. You’ve said no/not sure enough times. No means no. You will make that decision when you are comfortable

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

He honestly hasn’t really even properly asked me how I feel about it, which makes it worse, almost? In a way? Granted, I have yet to tell him exactly how I feel about it, but he makes kind of pushy comments about it on a regular basis. I know I need to approach the subject with him properly, but I haven’t quite figured out how to yet. I need to soon, because it’s weighing on me pretty severely and causing legitimate anxiety whenever I speak with him.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

Does it get worse if I tell you he is actually at the point where he could get his own place? He graduated over a year ago and got a very high-paying job right out of college, he has enough savings to where he could get an apartment if he actually wanted to. I kind of get him wanting to stay home; his parents are filthy rich, their house is an actual mansion, but that just makes them pretentious. They’re have insane rules. It doesn’t feel like a home, to me. It’s more like a display room.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

As a man, I would be just as uncomfortable if my girl put me in the same situation. NTA, just communicate and set boundaries

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Thank you, I really appreciate your perspective. I’ll definitely work on how to approach this.

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