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AITA 8w
am i wrong for being pissed at how reckless my boyfriend acts on the road when he’s by himself? with me he’s so careful and slow but he’s been in 2 crashes and totaled 2 cars this year already both times by himself
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Anonymous 8w

Totaling 2 cars in a year is insane. I understand this question is rooted in worry for his safety but I think its important to consider the other people hes endangering with this behavior. He wont think twice until someone ends up dead from his lack of care. Also, cars are expensive, whos funding this? Does he gaf? Is that really someone you think is worth your energy? Its a hard question but an important one. NTA and Id take some time to think abt the future of the relationship

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Anonymous 8w

Nah he wildin. He drunk?

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Anonymous 8w

Not wrong at all. My boyfriend notoriously used to speed. I’m talking SPEED. He’s never hit anything, hurt anyone, crashed anything, but it’s the “what’s ifs”… it took my boyfriend getting a ultra super speeder and a 1k+ speeding ticket to shapen up. Now he never speeds (like more than 8-10 over). He’ll learn at some point. Try talking to him about how thats worrisome and reckless, ultimately costing some portion of your relationship

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Anonymous 8w

You can be pissed but you can’t make him change

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 8w

no that’s the crazy part, he knows i don’t play around about that driving intoxicated shit. he’s just so reckless with himself it’s infuriating

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 8w

i’ve tried, the scary part is is that he does speed and he wants to get a motorcycle but i feel like i can’t trust him in a 4 wheeled vehicle where he’s locked in and atleast somewhat safe. i don’t want to think about his driving habits on something a thousand times worse because i do fear he will end up dying because of it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

Damn im sorry. If you’ve already tried talking… you just gotta keep mentioning how worrisome it is. Take away his keys or something😭 give them to his parents or something like punishment timeout

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 8w

it’s hard on that too, right now because i’m not at college it’s about a 2 hour drive distance just between me and his apartment and farther from his parents, it’s not like i can “ground” him but you’re definitely right im gonna keep mentioning how scared/worried i am for him. i truly do love him and we both waited so so so long for each other to finally be together im just scared that now that i have him im gonna lose him to something as stupid as a crash

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