AITA on Sidechat | I was SA’d in august of 2024 and i never reported it because i was ashamed and wanted to move on but now it’s starting to bother me how he is just walking around campus with a new gf living his best life. Sometimes i feel like it’s not fair. AITA?

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AITA 4w

I was SA’d in august of 2024 and i never reported it because i was ashamed and wanted to move on but now it’s starting to bother me how he is just walking around campus with a new gf living his best life. Sometimes i feel like it’s not fair. AITA?

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Anonymous 4w

you are NOT the asshole. it’s not your responsibility to report what he did, it’s his responsibility for being a piece of shit, but no one would fault you for reporting him if you ever chose to do so. it’s not fair at ALL that he’s able to walk around acting like he isn’t a monster.

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Anonymous 4w

That’s not wrong at all. It’s okay to feel upset about that

Anonymous 4w

OG poster here: sadly everybody i cannot report him now because there is no evidence of the assault and it would simply be a he said she said. i have been SA’d before and the police report made everything worse so that’s another reason i decided not to, but all of your support and encouragement means literally everything to me🥹🫶🏻

Anonymous 4w

Not the asshole at all, I hope your feeling okay

Anonymous 4w

100% NTA. report him, he deserves every consequence it’ll bring him and you could possibly save that girl from any harm he could be doing her to

Anonymous 4w

NTA

Anonymous 4w

As a SA victim myself my biggest regret was not reporting the mf, do it for all the girlies out there. You are strong and you deserve so much more than that. ❤️❤️❤️

Anonymous 4w

REPORT HIS ASS

Anonymous 4w

Not at all. Get his ass!

Anonymous 4w

Not too late. Who knows, you may be part of a group of victims

Anonymous 4w

i was in the same situation, it is not fair at all, but imo karma will get them worse than i could and it was better for me to protect my peace and allow myself to heal. it gets better i promise💗

Anonymous 4w

I’m so sorry. I reported and it did nothing but cause me more hurt. It would be more justice to post his name and that he’s a r*pist on ur colleges Yik yak

Anonymous 4w

I’m sorry you went through that. I completely understand why a lot of people don’t report and don’t know how to handle it. I hope whatever route you choose, you find healing, and hopefully he’ll find somewhere far away from human society. ❤️‍🩹

Anonymous 3w

NTA. I feel that

Anonymous 4w

Ambiance

Anonymous 4w

It’s bothering you BECAUSE you see him happy with another girl?

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Anonymous

#11 4w

or go back and get that mf, whatever feels better for you!

Anonymous

#15 4w

It’s obviously bothering her to see the person who SA’d her living a good life without consequences and around other women he could also hurt. what an insensitive comment

Anonymous 4w

yeah I mean that is what happens when you don’t report. it’s something you have to take accountability for.

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Anonymous

#5 4w

I have been fully sa-d and I was more bugged that my former bipolar roommate was happy who didn’t receive consequences. So it’s not a new or unique feeling to only be mad about that.

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Anonymous

#15 3w

Ur a bad person and have very little understanding of human emotion.

Anonymous

#15 3w

My ex had a p*rn addiction and r*ped me for years in highschool. I recently found out he was engaged and my heart dropped, not because I was jealous, but because I don’t want any other woman to go through what I did but I know it’s not my place to tell her. It’s that simple. Nobody cares about your personal experience if you’re going to put down the experiences of others.

Anonymous

#16 3w

And nobody has to take accountability of a rapist’s actions except for themselves.

Anonymous

#16 3w

If you knew what Ido irl you’d find out you’re dead fkn wrong. Everyone can have their opinion. Sure it’s fine to feel some kinda way, but how you react to situations is a reflection of you (in this case, when the person is no longer active or bothering you in life). I’m not backing down

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Anonymous

#15 3w

No this isn’t an everyone has their opinion type thing. You are actively invalidating and insulting op and saying how they are feeling isn’t normal when it’s actually super normal to feel upset when you’re suffering and the person who harmed you is thriving.

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Anonymous

#15 3w

The person still is going to be abusing people, just not op actively. Seeing your abuser in public is always something to be bothered by and so much more so when they have a new victim with them and seem happy when they deserve to be rotting in hell.

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Anonymous

#15 3w

So with absolutely zero respect, fuck off and go to hell. I can’t explain how many survivors I have talked through seeing their assaulter or abuser in public, or just through shit in general, and you are so extremely dead wrong and only causing more harm by commenting any of this.

Anonymous

mother_russia 3w

Uh oh forgot to fuck off I’m still here!

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Anonymous

#15 3w

Yeah you’re definitely not a victim, you’re the perpetrator and that’s why you took it so personally that people wish the worst on perpetrators. Fucking coward.