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AITA for lying to my friends (see comments for details)
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Anonymous 1w

Sweet in theory but really shitty, people shouldn’t try to force you to admit to personal issues if you’re not close like that. I can see being concerned or upset if you lied about having an addiction and recovering, or borrowed money to fuel said addiction but from whats written here that doesnt seem the case. I’d just talk to them about how you feel and if they hold no compassion for you I’d just keep moving forward. I recently moved to a new state and have gone through 4 friend groups (1)

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Anonymous 1w

Nobody is entitled to your medical/health issues whether that’s physical or mental. You went through something serious and it’s fucked up of your friends to make it all about themselves. If you want to keep some personal stuff private thats your god given right. Your friends are shitty and you should replace them asap

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Anonymous 1w

For context I’m a 19 year old woman in my first yr of college, I’ve known these friends for like 5ish months. Okay so, I have two friends who I will call Red and blue. Just some girls I chill and goof with, all is well. Except I was dealing with some extreme depression and attempted during the first semester with drugs. Yada yada… my roommate finds me dying on the floor and I’m in a hospital. Mind you, this was right before finals, so my friends were pretty worried I disappeared.

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Anonymous 1w

I feel like I’m at rock bottom again with no one who loves me AND knows the truth. They proved my mom right, I should’ve kept lying.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

They play detective, find out I’m in the hospital and somehow get my mom’s number to check in on me which was very sweet of them. My family is a very hush hush kind of family, so they only knew that there was a medical emergency. I get better(ish) and after getting discharged and Christmas break I go back to college. I texted them it was a problem with my liver because the topic made me uncomfortable. My mom said that I shouldn’t tell others the truth bc they would take advantage of me.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I keep the lie up for likeeee 3 months idk, not good with time. But one day Red and Blue ask me to drink with them. Now, I had a crush on blue and all of us knew it. Like, not subtle at all bro. So I wanted to be included and drink so that blue might like me more. I felt like I had it in the bag bc blue was kinda filrting with me. Putting her arms around me and stuff

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

So I drink and apparently I’m a lightweight bc I got super drunk. I assumed we would just play fortnight and chill. Then the questions came. (Mind you what I describe next is what I can remember) They set down the controller and pause the game and look at me. They say something along the lines of “so, are you going to tell us the truth.” I could go into detail but long story short, drunk me embarrassingly spills everything and then some. Ig my subconscious rly wanted to tell other person.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I cry, we hug, they tell me they are here for me. I feel humiliated but happy I have friends who support the real me. The next day I learn blue doesn’t like me back, which I respect but it hurt a lot. Red texts me for the next few days with kind words.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

A few more days past and I get a text from red saying that she needs space and that she is hurt by my lies. This hurt A LOT, like even more than my crush not liking me :( I’m sad but I want to keep my friendship with red so I tried to be as kind and respectful as possible

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

But apart of me is angry, shouldn’t I be the one mad? They gave me drinks when they knew I was going thru something and kinda took advantage of me drunk. I even remember them joking about straddling me to see if the self proclaimed straight girl would be flustered. They didn’t from what I remember but this hurt me. I don’t understand why red is treating me like I’m a monster who only knows how to lie. I don’t understand.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

:( I just want to be a good person to them

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Trying to find one that clicks, I finally found one after a full year and now i’m back in my groove. You’ll be able to find a group just the same as long as you keep on connecting with people! (2)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Okay I’ll try to, I’m just sad bc I sat in the cafeteria and noticed red and blue at another table looking at me and talking

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I just want them to tell me what I lied about that hurt them

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

They told me it was scary how elaborate the lie was so I kind of felt crazy haha

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

What’s scary is the fact that they almost lost you to depression. Their only response should be to make you feel as loved as possible. The lie wasn’t that you run the cartel, it was about something really painful that happened to YOU.They’re straight up narcissists because I cannot fathom how your friend could almost off herself and your response is to make her feel more like shit?? Toddlers know better they can fuck off

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