AITA on Sidechat | Just found out I’m pregnant. I’m only 19. I kind of want to wait a few weeks to see if I miscarry. My boyfriend says I should get it done ASAP. We’ve been fighting ever since. Am I in the wrong or him!?

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AITA 14w

Just found out I’m pregnant. I’m only 19. I kind of want to wait a few weeks to see if I miscarry. My boyfriend says I should get it done ASAP. We’ve been fighting ever since. Am I in the wrong or him!?

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Anonymous 14w

Okay so what are your local laws about abortions?

Anonymous 14w

Unless you are taking action to purposely miscarry, I would go ahead with the abortion, the sooner the better

Anonymous 14w

Neither of you are wrong for how you feel. I understand he’s probably just anxious and wants to act quickly but ultimately it’s your decision legally not his

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mother_russia 14w

California so pretty liberal about it up to 12, I have to be four weeks right now I just missed my period but I’m not sure yet

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OP 14w

Okay so you definitely have a chance of miscarriage but it isn’t super likely unless you’ve got health things that would cause it that you know of. Why is it that you are wanting to wait?

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#3 14w

Honestly trying to purposely miscarry is very likely to cause harm to her and not work, so don’t try the at home things. Drinking won’t kill the baby, random drugs won’t either, the carrots or papaya or other things aren’t effective. A doctor is much more reliable and safe for her

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mother_russia 14w

Exactly. What I mean is I don’t see the purpose of waiting to see if you will miscarry unless you have reasons to believe you will

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OP 14w

You don’t know for sure how many weeks you are- it’s rare (ish), but you can get pregnant on your period and you can be pregnant and menstruate. So I don’t want you to wait thinking you have all the time in the world but then find out waited too long and have to carry to term.