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AITA 1w
Aita for being upset my bf doesn’t get me gifts when he can’t afford to buy me anything? For context he’s in a really rough financial spot rn, but i’ve told him many times I’m fine with and even prefer homemade gifts. Even a love letter, anything.
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Anonymous 1w

We need more context tbh, is he too busy to write you a letter?

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Anonymous 1w

We’ve been together for like a year this has been a trend, and he did write me a small letter as a gift on our anniversary in his defense

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Anonymous 1w

How have you been asking for gifts? Have you been direct?

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Anonymous 6d

No i was in the same situation with my ex. I stressed so many times i don’t need material things just wanted letters, flowers (even just one outside), i needed romance and some cute gestures and the only time he got me flowers and a letter in our 5 yr relationship was after i finally left. My first time ever seeing his handwriting btw. Stayed way too long

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

I cant go too much in detail but 100% no, he spends a majority of his day playing videogames

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Oh oof girl, do you love him enough to accept you won’t get gifts?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

I mean yeahh its not the end of the world its less about the gifts and more just that he’s not putting effort into something I mentioned I care about

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

You can’t change him, if your words aren’t working then this is just how it is. If you are willing to look past that then you should continue to love him

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Its come up in conversation before after I made him a gift and he mentioned feeling bad about not being able to buy something in return, where I said that just making me stuff once in a while is enough. It could be I wasn’t direct enough though?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Maybe that’s too vague for him, tell him that you need letters or little gifts to feel loved. Tell him it’s you love language and that it’s important to you. Respect both yourself and him when you tell him. With guys, you sometimes need to be blunt lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Side note// can you help me out w my post it’s the one about lying above yours, don’t have to but I’d appreciate it!

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